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  • F Friday
    14 Aug 2022, 03:20

    Congrats LW! Nice to hear from you.

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    LW
    wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:34 last edited by
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    @Friday thank you! I hope to stick around for a while with frequent check ins. I've missed the gang.

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    • R Renauda
      14 Aug 2022, 03:54

      @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

      five and a half-ish months

      Congratulations!

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      LW
      wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:34 last edited by
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      @Renauda thank you!

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      • B blondie
        14 Aug 2022, 03:55

        Congrats to you LW!

        I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So I’m glad I waited.

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        LW
        wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:35 last edited by
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        @blondie thank you!

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          LW
          wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 16:03 last edited by
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          @brenda thank you! Yes, it's much easier right now, although we've learned traveling with a kid is a LOT more work. We'll have our first flight with him in October. Luckily it's only 3 hours.

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            LW
            wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 16:10 last edited by
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            He mostly stays put, but has mastered rolling so he rolls off the play mat onto the wood floors liberally sprinkled with fur and dust bunnies. Drooling has also been a fun discovery, which results in a slip-n-slide play mat😂

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              LW
              wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 21:16 last edited by
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              @cathys thank you!

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                Horace
                wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 21:18 last edited by
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                Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                Education is extremely important.

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                • H Horace
                  14 Aug 2022, 21:18

                  Congratulations LW to you and your family!

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                  LW
                  wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 14:29 last edited by
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                  @Horace said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                  Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                  Thank you!

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                    89th
                    wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:20 last edited by
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                    Personally I think 29.75 is the perfect age to have a child and every other age is wrong, and so is anyone who tells me otherwise.

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                      89th
                      wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:28 last edited by
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                      It's an interesting topic, mainly because there isn't a right or wrong answer. There are pros and cons to having children at various ages.

                      For example, a good buddy of mine and his wife are sending their last kid to college, and they are 42. They will be empty nesters with (hopefully) many years to enjoy things with relatively younger bodies and sufficient disposable income. I won't be an empty nester until I'm 57 59, but we also have established careers and savings accounts that allow us more options with the kids right now.

                      I'm 40 now and one of the main reasons I was fine with 2 kids (although I lost that battle) was I can see how my dad (70) and FIL (74) are still pretty active and able to do pretty much anything around the house/yard, whereas I will be 80 by the time my 3rd kid is my age, but that factor is pretty minor and distant from today, so it's not a practical factor. Although I am actively trying to get into better shape (and more flexible) before this 3rd kid arrives, both for my own sake and for they/them/theirs.

                      @LuFins-Dad - was it a bit of a shock to restart the baby life after Lucas was nearing the end of high school?

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                        Jolly
                        wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:29 last edited by
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                        No right or wrong answer?

                        Biologically speaking, there is.

                        “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                        Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                        • J Jolly
                          15 Aug 2022, 16:29

                          No right or wrong answer?

                          Biologically speaking, there is.

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                          89th
                          wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:50 last edited by
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                          @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                          No right or wrong answer?

                          Biologically speaking, there is.

                          Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

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                          • J Jolly
                            15 Aug 2022, 16:29

                            No right or wrong answer?

                            Biologically speaking, there is.

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                            Axtremus
                            wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:59 last edited by
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                            @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                            No right or wrong answer?

                            Biologically speaking, there is.

                            Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

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                            • 8 89th
                              15 Aug 2022, 16:50

                              @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                              No right or wrong answer?

                              Biologically speaking, there is.

                              Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

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                              LuFins Dad
                              wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:02 last edited by
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                              @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                              @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                              No right or wrong answer?

                              Biologically speaking, there is.

                              Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                              Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

                              The Brad

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                                LuFins Dad
                                wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:07 last edited by LuFins Dad
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                                The late 20's and early 30's are biologically the most advantageous years to have a child. If they aren't the best years economically or in terms of emotional, educational, or professional development, then the problem lies in societal or personal causes.

                                The Brad

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                                • A Axtremus
                                  15 Aug 2022, 16:59

                                  @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                  No right or wrong answer?

                                  Biologically speaking, there is.

                                  Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

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                                  Jolly
                                  wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:13 last edited by
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                                  @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                  @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                  No right or wrong answer?

                                  Biologically speaking, there is.

                                  Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                  Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

                                  “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                                  Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                                  • L LuFins Dad
                                    15 Aug 2022, 17:02

                                    @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    No right or wrong answer?

                                    Biologically speaking, there is.

                                    Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                                    Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

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                                    89th
                                    wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:13 last edited by
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                                    @LuFins-Dad said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    No right or wrong answer?

                                    Biologically speaking, there is.

                                    Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                                    Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

                                    Sorry misread Jolly. Didn’t see the biological part.

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                                    • J Jolly
                                      15 Aug 2022, 17:13

                                      @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      No right or wrong answer?

                                      Biologically speaking, there is.

                                      Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                      Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

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                                      Axtremus
                                      wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 18:13 last edited by
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                                      @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      No right or wrong answer?

                                      Biologically speaking, there is.

                                      Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                      Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

                                      1. I wrote about “accommodation”, not “improvement”

                                      2. Examples of technology improving upon biology: helmets, oven mitts, shoes/horseshoes, orthodontics/braces, anesthetics, vaccines …

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                                      • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer
                                        14 Aug 2022, 00:16

                                        @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

                                        Awesome, congrats!!

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                                        taiwan_girl
                                        wrote on 16 Aug 2022, 14:46 last edited by
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                                        @Aqua-Letifer said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

                                        Awesome, congrats!!

                                        +1

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