Preserving options to have children later in life

[LW]

@George-K I do wish my parents would be able to do more things, and not struggle to get on the floor to play with him, but that's the way our lives turned out. Why do you feel 72 is too old? My mom would agree with you. Some of her friends have great grandchildren now.

[LW]

@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

[Aqua Letifer]

@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

How old?

[Renauda]

@LW

I know what you mean. We did not have any grandparents or immediate family on whom we could fob off the tyke. In a pinch we had a couple of close friends from my childhood. Still, I can count the number of times we did that on one hand and, then, it was only for a couple hours at most.

[LW]

@Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

[Aqua Letifer]

@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

@Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

Awesome, congrats!!

[LW]

@Aqua-Letifer thanks!

[Axtremus]

+1 congratulations to @LW … didn’t know that you have become a mom until reading this thread.

[Friday]

Congrats LW! Nice to hear from you.

[Renauda]

@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

five and a half-ish months

Congratulations!

[blondie]

Congrats to you LW!

I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So I’m glad I waited.

[brenda]

Congrats, LW! You're past the teeny tiny infant stage, and things get easier now, lots more fun. You've probably already seen this change.

Blondie, I waited to my early thirties to have a baby. We were moving several times around the country during the first years of marriage. Then hubby and I both had our dads die in a six-month period, and we moved back to Minnesooooooota. It was a few years after that before I was ready to try for a baby.

Had ours at age 33, and it's kept me younger. All the folks with kids that age were about ten years my junior.

I am so glad to have waited until I was ready to give my best self to our kiddo, a more responsible self focused on parenting, home life, career, and community service. I'm also glad to have not waited any longer than that, so I can return to my wild self that wouldn't perhaps be as great at parenting.

[cathys]

@Aqua-Letifer and @LW - One of the best parts of checking back in is getting caught up on everyone's life updates! Belated congrats Aqua on your daughter and LW, at least we are connected on FB so I did know about your newbie but congrats again to you too
On the topic at hand. I had my first at 21 and post divorce, 2nd marriage had S2 at 33 and S3 at 35. Good and bad from both perspectives, but patience and maturity were definitely better with the youngest two.
On a side note we've recently (well 18+ months ago) became 1st time grandparents from S2 and that is more awesome than I could have imagined

[Jolly]

Grandkids rock!

And when they don't, you send them home to their parents.

[Mik]

@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

@Renauda I refuse to count on my mom or MIL to be free babysitters. By that, I mean that our primary childcare is daycare, with the grandparents free to have visits whenever. I didn't mean they can't be counted on. I just don't want to make them feel obligated or anything. Come over for a visit or occasional babysitting whenever they wish, no forced schedule.

Meaning of course that you two are responsible adults and were raised well.

[George K]

[Mik]

@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

That age is wonderful in that they stay put.

[LW]

@Axtremus thank you!

[George K]

@Mik said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

That age is wonderful in that they stay put.

I remember a conversation with a colleague:

"Boy it's a pain in the ass when they start to walk."

"Yeah, wait until they start to talk."

[Jolly]

Nah, teenagers is when they become a PITA. But looking on the bright side, they usually come to their senses in their twenties and are kinda nice to have around.