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Preserving options to have children later in life

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  • JollyJ Offline
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    Jolly
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    #54

    Nah, teenagers is when they become a PITA. But looking on the bright side, they usually come to their senses in their twenties and are kinda nice to have around.

    “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

    Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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    • F Friday

      Congrats LW! Nice to hear from you.

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      LW
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      #55

      @Friday thank you! I hope to stick around for a while with frequent check ins. I've missed the gang.

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      • RenaudaR Renauda

        @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

        five and a half-ish months

        Congratulations!

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        LW
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        #56

        @Renauda thank you!

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        • B blondie

          Congrats to you LW!

          I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So I’m glad I waited.

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          LW
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          #57

          @blondie thank you!

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          • LWL Offline
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            LW
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            #58

            @brenda thank you! Yes, it's much easier right now, although we've learned traveling with a kid is a LOT more work. We'll have our first flight with him in October. Luckily it's only 3 hours.

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              LW
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              #59

              He mostly stays put, but has mastered rolling so he rolls off the play mat onto the wood floors liberally sprinkled with fur and dust bunnies. Drooling has also been a fun discovery, which results in a slip-n-slide play mat😂

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                LW
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                #60

                @cathys thank you!

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                  Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                  Education is extremely important.

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                  • HoraceH Horace

                    Congratulations LW to you and your family!

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                    LW
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                    @Horace said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                    Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                    Thank you!

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                    • 89th8 Offline
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                      89th
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                      Personally I think 29.75 is the perfect age to have a child and every other age is wrong, and so is anyone who tells me otherwise.

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                        It's an interesting topic, mainly because there isn't a right or wrong answer. There are pros and cons to having children at various ages.

                        For example, a good buddy of mine and his wife are sending their last kid to college, and they are 42. They will be empty nesters with (hopefully) many years to enjoy things with relatively younger bodies and sufficient disposable income. I won't be an empty nester until I'm 57 59, but we also have established careers and savings accounts that allow us more options with the kids right now.

                        I'm 40 now and one of the main reasons I was fine with 2 kids (although I lost that battle) was I can see how my dad (70) and FIL (74) are still pretty active and able to do pretty much anything around the house/yard, whereas I will be 80 by the time my 3rd kid is my age, but that factor is pretty minor and distant from today, so it's not a practical factor. Although I am actively trying to get into better shape (and more flexible) before this 3rd kid arrives, both for my own sake and for they/them/theirs.

                        @LuFins-Dad - was it a bit of a shock to restart the baby life after Lucas was nearing the end of high school?

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                        • JollyJ Offline
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                          Jolly
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                          #65

                          No right or wrong answer?

                          Biologically speaking, there is.

                          “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                          Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                          • JollyJ Jolly

                            No right or wrong answer?

                            Biologically speaking, there is.

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                            @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                            No right or wrong answer?

                            Biologically speaking, there is.

                            Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

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                            • JollyJ Jolly

                              No right or wrong answer?

                              Biologically speaking, there is.

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                              Axtremus
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                              @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                              No right or wrong answer?

                              Biologically speaking, there is.

                              Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

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                              • 89th8 89th

                                @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                No right or wrong answer?

                                Biologically speaking, there is.

                                Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

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                                LuFins Dad
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                                @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                No right or wrong answer?

                                Biologically speaking, there is.

                                Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                                Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

                                The Brad

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                                  LuFins Dad
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                                  #69

                                  The late 20's and early 30's are biologically the most advantageous years to have a child. If they aren't the best years economically or in terms of emotional, educational, or professional development, then the problem lies in societal or personal causes.

                                  The Brad

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                                  • AxtremusA Axtremus

                                    @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    No right or wrong answer?

                                    Biologically speaking, there is.

                                    Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

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                                    Jolly
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                                    @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                    No right or wrong answer?

                                    Biologically speaking, there is.

                                    Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                    Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

                                    “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                                    Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                                    • LuFins DadL LuFins Dad

                                      @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      No right or wrong answer?

                                      Biologically speaking, there is.

                                      Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                                      Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

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                                      @LuFins-Dad said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                      No right or wrong answer?

                                      Biologically speaking, there is.

                                      Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.

                                      Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..

                                      Sorry misread Jolly. Didn’t see the biological part.

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                                      • JollyJ Jolly

                                        @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        No right or wrong answer?

                                        Biologically speaking, there is.

                                        Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                        Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

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                                        Axtremus
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                                        @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        @Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                        No right or wrong answer?

                                        Biologically speaking, there is.

                                        Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.

                                        Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.

                                        1. I wrote about “accommodation”, not “improvement”

                                        2. Examples of technology improving upon biology: helmets, oven mitts, shoes/horseshoes, orthodontics/braces, anesthetics, vaccines …

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                                        • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                                          @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                          @Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

                                          Awesome, congrats!!

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                                          @Aqua-Letifer said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                          @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                          @Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

                                          Awesome, congrats!!

                                          +1

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