Preserving options to have children later in life
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@Renauda I refuse to count on my mom or MIL to be free babysitters. By that, I mean that our primary childcare is daycare, with the grandparents free to have visits whenever. I didn't mean they can't be counted on. I just don't want to make them feel obligated or anything. Come over for a visit or occasional babysitting whenever they wish, no forced schedule.
wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 14:32 last edited by@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Renauda I refuse to count on my mom or MIL to be free babysitters. By that, I mean that our primary childcare is daycare, with the grandparents free to have visits whenever. I didn't mean they can't be counted on. I just don't want to make them feel obligated or anything. Come over for a visit or occasional babysitting whenever they wish, no forced schedule.
Meaning of course that you two are responsible adults and were raised well.
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wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 14:44 last edited by
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@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.
wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:01 last edited by@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.
That age is wonderful in that they stay put.
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+1 congratulations to @LW … didn’t know that you have become a mom until reading this thread.
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@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.
That age is wonderful in that they stay put.
wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:25 last edited by@Mik said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
That age is wonderful in that they stay put.
I remember a conversation with a colleague:
"Boy it's a pain in the ass when they start to walk."
"Yeah, wait until they start to talk."
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wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:27 last edited by
Nah, teenagers is when they become a PITA. But looking on the bright side, they usually come to their senses in their twenties and are kinda nice to have around.
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@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
five and a half-ish months
Congratulations!
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Congrats to you LW!
I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So I’m glad I waited.
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wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 16:10 last edited by
He mostly stays put, but has mastered rolling so he rolls off the play mat onto the wood floors liberally sprinkled with fur and dust bunnies. Drooling has also been a fun discovery, which results in a slip-n-slide play mat
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wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 21:18 last edited by
Congratulations LW to you and your family!
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 14:29 last edited by
@Horace said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
Congratulations LW to you and your family!
Thank you!
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:20 last edited by
Personally I think 29.75 is the perfect age to have a child and every other age is wrong, and so is anyone who tells me otherwise.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:28 last edited by
It's an interesting topic, mainly because there isn't a right or wrong answer. There are pros and cons to having children at various ages.
For example, a good buddy of mine and his wife are sending their last kid to college, and they are 42. They will be empty nesters with (hopefully) many years to enjoy things with relatively younger bodies and sufficient disposable income. I won't be an empty nester until I'm
5759, but we also have established careers and savings accounts that allow us more options with the kids right now.I'm 40 now and one of the main reasons I was fine with 2 kids (although I lost that battle) was I can see how my dad (70) and FIL (74) are still pretty active and able to do pretty much anything around the house/yard, whereas I will be 80 by the time my 3rd kid is my age, but that factor is pretty minor and distant from today, so it's not a practical factor. Although I am actively trying to get into better shape (and more flexible) before this 3rd kid arrives, both for my own sake and for they/them/theirs.
@LuFins-Dad - was it a bit of a shock to restart the baby life after Lucas was nearing the end of high school?
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:29 last edited by
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:50 last edited by
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:59 last edited by
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
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@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:02 last edited by@89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..