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    Friday
    wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 03:20 last edited by
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    Congrats LW! Nice to hear from you.

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    • L LW
      13 Aug 2022, 23:38

      @Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months

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      Renauda
      wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 03:54 last edited by
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      @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

      five and a half-ish months

      Congratulations!

      Elbows up!

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        blondie
        wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 03:55 last edited by
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        Congrats to you LW!

        I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So Iโ€™m glad I waited.

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          brenda
          wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 10:49 last edited by
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          Congrats, LW! You're past the teeny tiny infant stage, and things get easier now, lots more fun. You've probably already seen this change.

          Blondie, I waited to my early thirties to have a baby. We were moving several times around the country during the first years of marriage. Then hubby and I both had our dads die in a six-month period, and we moved back to Minnesooooooota. It was a few years after that before I was ready to try for a baby.

          Had ours at age 33, and it's kept me younger. All the folks with kids that age were about ten years my junior.

          I am so glad to have waited until I was ready to give my best self to our kiddo, a more responsible self focused on parenting, home life, career, and community service. I'm also glad to have not waited any longer than that, so I can return to my wild self that wouldn't perhaps be as great at parenting. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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            cathys
            wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 12:46 last edited by
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            @Aqua-Letifer and @LW - One of the best parts of checking back in is getting caught up on everyone's life updates! Belated congrats Aqua on your daughter and LW, at least we are connected on FB so I did know about your newbie but congrats again to you too ๐Ÿ™‚
            On the topic at hand. I had my first at 21 and post divorce, 2nd marriage had S2 at 33 and S3 at 35. Good and bad from both perspectives, but patience and maturity were definitely better with the youngest two.
            On a side note we've recently (well 18+ months ago) became 1st time grandparents from S2 and that is more awesome than I could have imagined ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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              Jolly
              wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 12:58 last edited by
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              Grandkids rock! ๐Ÿ‘

              And when they don't, you send them home to their parents.

              โ€œCry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!โ€

              Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terroristsโ€™ "due process". โ€” Buck Sexton

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              • L LW
                13 Aug 2022, 22:35

                @Renauda I refuse to count on my mom or MIL to be free babysitters. By that, I mean that our primary childcare is daycare, with the grandparents free to have visits whenever. I didn't mean they can't be counted on. I just don't want to make them feel obligated or anything. Come over for a visit or occasional babysitting whenever they wish, no forced schedule.

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                Mik
                wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 14:32 last edited by
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                @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                @Renauda I refuse to count on my mom or MIL to be free babysitters. By that, I mean that our primary childcare is daycare, with the grandparents free to have visits whenever. I didn't mean they can't be counted on. I just don't want to make them feel obligated or anything. Come over for a visit or occasional babysitting whenever they wish, no forced schedule.

                Meaning of course that you two are responsible adults and were raised well.

                "The intelligent man who is proud of his intelligence is like the condemned man who is proud of his large cell." Simone Weil

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                  George K
                  wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 14:44 last edited by
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                  "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                  The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                  • L LW
                    13 Aug 2022, 22:55

                    @Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

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                    Mik
                    wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:01 last edited by
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                    @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                    @Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

                    That age is wonderful in that they stay put.

                    "The intelligent man who is proud of his intelligence is like the condemned man who is proud of his large cell." Simone Weil

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                    • A Axtremus
                      14 Aug 2022, 03:09

                      +1 congratulations to @LW โ€ฆ didnโ€™t know that you have become a mom until reading this thread. ๐Ÿ™‚

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                      LW
                      wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:23 last edited by
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                      @Axtremus thank you!

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                      • M Mik
                        14 Aug 2022, 15:01

                        @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                        @Aqua-Letifer awwww how fun! I'm loving being a parent, and am looking forward to that age and running around playgrounds. However, he is currently sleeping in my arms after a bottle and I love this too.

                        That age is wonderful in that they stay put.

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                        George K
                        wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:25 last edited by
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                        @Mik said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                        That age is wonderful in that they stay put.

                        I remember a conversation with a colleague:

                        "Boy it's a pain in the ass when they start to walk."

                        "Yeah, wait until they start to talk."

                        "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                        The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                          Jolly
                          wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:27 last edited by
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                          Nah, teenagers is when they become a PITA. But looking on the bright side, they usually come to their senses in their twenties and are kinda nice to have around.

                          โ€œCry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!โ€

                          Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terroristsโ€™ "due process". โ€” Buck Sexton

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                          • F Friday
                            14 Aug 2022, 03:20

                            Congrats LW! Nice to hear from you.

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                            LW
                            wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:34 last edited by
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                            @Friday thank you! I hope to stick around for a while with frequent check ins. I've missed the gang.

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                            • R Renauda
                              14 Aug 2022, 03:54

                              @LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                              five and a half-ish months

                              Congratulations!

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                              LW
                              wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:34 last edited by
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                              @Renauda thank you!

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                              • B blondie
                                14 Aug 2022, 03:55

                                Congrats to you LW!

                                I was way too immature in my 20s to have children. So Iโ€™m glad I waited.

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                                LW
                                wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 15:35 last edited by
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                                @blondie thank you!

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                                  LW
                                  wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 16:03 last edited by
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                                  @brenda thank you! Yes, it's much easier right now, although we've learned traveling with a kid is a LOT more work. We'll have our first flight with him in October. Luckily it's only 3 hours.

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                                    LW
                                    wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 16:10 last edited by
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                                    He mostly stays put, but has mastered rolling so he rolls off the play mat onto the wood floors liberally sprinkled with fur and dust bunnies. Drooling has also been a fun discovery, which results in a slip-n-slide play mat๐Ÿ˜‚

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                                      LW
                                      wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 21:16 last edited by
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                                      @cathys thank you!

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                                        Horace
                                        wrote on 14 Aug 2022, 21:18 last edited by
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                                        Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                                        Education is extremely important.

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                                        • H Horace
                                          14 Aug 2022, 21:18

                                          Congratulations LW to you and your family!

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                                          LW
                                          wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 14:29 last edited by
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                                          @Horace said in Preserving options to have children later in life:

                                          Congratulations LW to you and your family!

                                          Thank you!

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