Preserving options to have children later in life
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 14:29 last edited by
@Horace said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
Congratulations LW to you and your family!
Thank you!
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:20 last edited by
Personally I think 29.75 is the perfect age to have a child and every other age is wrong, and so is anyone who tells me otherwise.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:28 last edited by
It's an interesting topic, mainly because there isn't a right or wrong answer. There are pros and cons to having children at various ages.
For example, a good buddy of mine and his wife are sending their last kid to college, and they are 42. They will be empty nesters with (hopefully) many years to enjoy things with relatively younger bodies and sufficient disposable income. I won't be an empty nester until I'm
5759, but we also have established careers and savings accounts that allow us more options with the kids right now.I'm 40 now and one of the main reasons I was fine with 2 kids (although I lost that battle) was I can see how my dad (70) and FIL (74) are still pretty active and able to do pretty much anything around the house/yard, whereas I will be 80 by the time my 3rd kid is my age, but that factor is pretty minor and distant from today, so it's not a practical factor. Although I am actively trying to get into better shape (and more flexible) before this 3rd kid arrives, both for my own sake and for they/them/theirs.
@LuFins-Dad - was it a bit of a shock to restart the baby life after Lucas was nearing the end of high school?
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:29 last edited by
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:50 last edited by
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 16:59 last edited by
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
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@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:02 last edited by@89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..
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wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:07 last edited by LuFins Dad
The late 20's and early 30's are biologically the most advantageous years to have a child. If they aren't the best years economically or in terms of emotional, educational, or professional development, then the problem lies in societal or personal causes.
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@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:13 last edited by@Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.
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@89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..
wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 17:13 last edited by@LuFins-Dad said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@89th said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Well, I mean, within reason. There are benefits and risks for having a kid at 20 as well as at 40.
Biologically? The risks are definitively higher for the 40-year-old..
Sorry misread Jolly. Didn’t see the biological part.
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@Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.
wrote on 15 Aug 2022, 18:13 last edited by@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Axtremus said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Jolly said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
No right or wrong answer?
Biologically speaking, there is.
Where nature is insufficiently accommodative, we fix it with technology, something that we continue to adapt and improve over time.
Technology often keeps the bad from becoming worse, but it never improves upon biology.
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I wrote about “accommodation”, not “improvement”
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Examples of technology improving upon biology: helmets, oven mitts, shoes/horseshoes, orthodontics/braces, anesthetics, vaccines …
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@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months
Awesome, congrats!!
wrote on 16 Aug 2022, 14:46 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@LW said in Preserving options to have children later in life:
@Aqua-Letifer five and a half-ish months
Awesome, congrats!!
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