So how should I resign?
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Jolly's suggestion is the best.
You give no reasons for leaving other than the pandemic. You burn no bridges. I imagine that your world is a lot like mine was - people know people who know people. It can come back to bite you.
Stay polite, stay professional, stay calm. This costs you nothing and will avoid any future recriminations, and makes you the better (ahem) man. You'll have a week or two of "Goddammit! I shoulda told those motherfuckers OFF!" But that kind of satisfaction is limited and short-term. Play the long game, and you'll win.
ETA: Ends on a positive note. No one can say you were an asshole because of the way you quit, even though we know you are.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:02 last edited by Catseye3 9 Mar 2020, 21:04@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
Stay polite, stay professional, stay calm.
Keep #1, meaning your lovely self, in the forefront -- meaning all other issues (like what you think you can cope with and what you can't; that's your thing and has nothing to do with getting out of that place alive) need to stay in the parking lot.I worry that if that woman is crazy, it's difficult if not impossible to head her off at the pass, so to speak. No matter what you do, no matter how much thought you put into how to resign in the best fashion, you've no way to know how she'll react.
That's why I like George's advice. Polite, professional, COOL, and as dispassionate as you can manage. And brief.Don't overthink it.
Because, when all is said and done, what else can you do???
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@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
Stay polite, stay professional, stay calm.
Keep #1, meaning your lovely self, in the forefront -- meaning all other issues (like what you think you can cope with and what you can't; that's your thing and has nothing to do with getting out of that place alive) need to stay in the parking lot.I worry that if that woman is crazy, it's difficult if not impossible to head her off at the pass, so to speak. No matter what you do, no matter how much thought you put into how to resign in the best fashion, you've no way to know how she'll react.
That's why I like George's advice. Polite, professional, COOL, and as dispassionate as you can manage. And brief.Don't overthink it.
Because, when all is said and done, what else can you do???
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:06 last edited by@Catseye3 said in So how should I resign?:
Keep #1, meaning your lovely self, in the forefront
Indeed. Make it about yourself, not about your fucked-up job.
If you say, "You're a bunch of assholes! I QUIT!" it sounds a lot worse than, "For personal reasons, blah, blah..."
As I said, think of long-term repercussions. I live in a big city, but the anesthesia community is pretty tight. If you get branded as an asshole, you're going to have trouble in the future. Trust me on that one.
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wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:12 last edited by Aqua Letifer 9 Mar 2020, 21:13
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)You could always end each sentence with “, bitches.”
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:16 last edited by@jon-nyc said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)You could always end each sentence with “, bitches.”
See above. Too obvious?
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wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:16 last edited by
"A place which has taught me so much...."
That made me spit (cheap) Scotch all over my keyboard. It's certainly accurate, isn't it, LOL?
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"A place which has taught me so much...."
That made me spit (cheap) Scotch all over my keyboard. It's certainly accurate, isn't it, LOL?
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:17 last edited by Aqua Letifer 9 Mar 2020, 21:17@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
"A place which has taught me so much...."
That made me spit (cheap) Scotch all over my keyboard. It's certainly accurate, isn't it, LOL?
See the other note in there? If you didn't the first time then I think it's a pretty good indication that I can roll with it.
(And I know, right? A more Southern insult I've never seen.
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@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:20 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)I might be more interested if you were thinking incendiary.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)I might be more interested if you were thinking incendiary.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:22 last edited by@Mik said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
It deeply saddens me to write this, but I must leave my position immediately at Wonky, Inc. I have recently been feeling very fatigued and am afraid I have been exposed to the novel corona virus. I can no longer fulfill my duties as assigned and feel like I need time for physical recuperation and mental health renewal.
Thank you for the opportunity of working at a place which has taught me so much.
Sincerely, Aqua-letifer.
Well they'd definitely leave me alone! Not a bad idea actually. (And Mik would be happy because, y'know, it doesn't involve a match and petrol.
)I might be more interested if you were thinking incendiary.
Well you know that burned shit-bags mailed anonymously are just boilerplate here, right? That's just boilerplate.
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@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
"A place which has taught me so much...."
That made me spit (cheap) Scotch all over my keyboard. It's certainly accurate, isn't it, LOL?
See the other note in there? If you didn't the first time then I think it's a pretty good indication that I can roll with it.
(And I know, right? A more Southern insult I've never seen.
)wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:29 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
A more Southern insult I've never seen.
Bless your heart.
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@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
Stay polite, stay professional, stay calm.
Keep #1, meaning your lovely self, in the forefront -- meaning all other issues (like what you think you can cope with and what you can't; that's your thing and has nothing to do with getting out of that place alive) need to stay in the parking lot.I worry that if that woman is crazy, it's difficult if not impossible to head her off at the pass, so to speak. No matter what you do, no matter how much thought you put into how to resign in the best fashion, you've no way to know how she'll react.
That's why I like George's advice. Polite, professional, COOL, and as dispassionate as you can manage. And brief.Don't overthink it.
Because, when all is said and done, what else can you do???
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:31 last edited by@Catseye3 said in So how should I resign?:
No matter what you do, no matter how much thought you put into how to resign in the best fashion, you've no way to know how she'll react.
Replying to my ownself with a belated thought. Some good advice I redd some time ago was this: Don't waste time worrying about what you can't control. Concentrate on what you can control.
You have no way of knowing how this woman will react, and you have no control over it. Let her do what she'll do, and concentrate on escaping as little scathed as possible. -
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 21:47 last edited by
When you deliver the note, bring donuts, or maybe cupcakes.
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wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 22:28 last edited by
Yeah, I agree with Jolly, George and Cat's advice. The short letter is good, gets you the hell out of there and you can concentrate on your future.
Leave, and let them stew in their miserable lives.
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- It doesn't actually say you have been exposed.
- It will keep them from calling you in for a face-to-face. Anybody can look like hell on the webcam.
- It gives you an out to quit immediately.
- It may singe the timbers a bit, but it burns no bridges.
- It is true they taught you something.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:21 last edited by@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
- It doesn't actually say you have been exposed.
- It will keep them from calling you in for a face-to-face. Anybody can look like hell on the webcam.
- It gives you an out to quit immediately.
- It may singe the timbers a bit, but it burns no bridges.
- It is true they taught you something.
You sir are a genius.
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I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:22 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
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wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:23 last edited by
That's a brilliant solution Jolly.
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@George-K said in So how should I resign?:
"A place which has taught me so much...."
That made me spit (cheap) Scotch all over my keyboard. It's certainly accurate, isn't it, LOL?
See the other note in there? If you didn't the first time then I think it's a pretty good indication that I can roll with it.
(And I know, right? A more Southern insult I've never seen.
)wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:24 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
See the other note in there? If you didn't the first time then I think it's a pretty good indication that I can roll with it.
Duuuuuuude. That is nice. So subtle they’ll never notice. But at least you’ll know.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:24 last edited by@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
Oh, I didn't edit for grammar.
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@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
Oh, I didn't edit for grammar.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:28 last edited by@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
Oh, I didn't edit for grammar.
C'mon, man!
I thought I did a pretty good job of a double entendre fuck you in the original.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
Oh, I didn't edit for grammar.
C'mon, man!
I thought I did a pretty good job of a double entendre fuck you in the original.
wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:30 last edited by@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
@Jolly said in So how should I resign?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in So how should I resign?:
I hope Jolly doesn't mind the changes.
Grammar ain't my strong point. I appreciate all the help I can get...
Oh, I didn't edit for grammar.
C'mon, man!
I thought I did a pretty good job of a double entendre fuck you in the original.
Did I leave some nastiness out? Let me know, I might have missed something!
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wrote on 3 Sept 2020, 23:31 last edited by
That hidden message you put. Steganography...you haz it.
It’s one of those things that no one will notice, but if someone does they will immediately know it was deliberate.