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Dementia is a cruel condition.

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  • jon-nycJ Offline
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    Sorry for your loss Mark.

    We are losing my brother-in-law to Frontotemporal Dimensia at this time as well. He’s in his early 60s.

    Thank you for your attention to this matter.

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    • RichR Online
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      RIP to your mother in law. It's fortunate she had family that was able to care for her/look out for her during those years. It's difficult to think about what happens for those who have no people on their side able to help.

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      • AxtremusA Offline
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        My condolences.

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        • MikM Away
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          Cruel indeed. Very loving of you to take her into your home. I know we had only moved my MIL to memory care for a month or so before she passed. It’s tough.

          "The intelligent man who is proud of his intelligence is like the condemned man who is proud of his large cell." Simone Weil

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            My condolences to you and your family, Mark. My father’s second wife, a WWII RCAF veteran, was stricken with a form of dementia that ultimately took her in 2008. He was with her at her side throughout.

            Elbows up!

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              Hugs to you @mark

              Yes, dementia seems to be much harder on the care-givers than on the patient.

              I have a friend in the US (maybe late 50's year old) who has a mom with dementia. She is in an assisted living place like you mention. It is one of those "age in place" and his mom has moved through the stages (starting at independent apartment living) to the most intensive assisted living.

              He and his wife just found out that his wife was diagnosed with early dementia. :(. He said that while he really likes the place his mom is at and has received great care there, he realizes that he may be moving there sooner than he expected.

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                Mark, sorry for your loss and sorry you had to go through that hardship.

                Flushing the toilet is like practicing the piano; you just cannot go too long without doing it.--Axtremus

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                  may her memory be a blessing, especially the good memories when she was cognitive...., take comfort in those and not the difficult ones at the end

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                    Mark - So sorry for your yours and Sarah's loss. It's like you go through two sets of mourning with Dementia - For the person who is no longer there and then again after they are physically gone. Hugs to you both

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                      That is a tough road. You did a good job with it.

                      Education is extremely important.

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                        Mark, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know the pain that dementia brings. It's a truly miserable illness.

                        As Bach said, try and remember her before she was ill.

                        I was only joking

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                        • RichR Rich

                          RIP to your mother in law. It's fortunate she had family that was able to care for her/look out for her during those years. It's difficult to think about what happens for those who have no people on their side able to help.

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                          @Rich said in Dementia is a cruel condition.:

                          RIP to your mother in law. It's fortunate she had family that was able to care for her/look out for her during those years. It's difficult to think about what happens for those who have no people on their side able to help.

                          I'd like to echo this. Sorry, Mark.

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                            Sorry for you and your family's loss even if a partial blessing. My father suffered from dementia - and my brothers and I fear our futures. All of us would rather die too soon than too late. I really can't say when I lost contact with the person I thought of as my father - though it seemed to come post surgery, perhaps from some mini-strokes.

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