Goodbye, Mom
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Rest in peace, Mom.
A urologist friend of mine had his last-surviving parent pass away several years ago. He commented to me, "You're not an adult until you lose both parents. I mean, whom am I going to ask for advice, now?"
Be joyful in the fact that her life was rich, and the fact that she really seemed to enjoy her later years, despite the rough patches of losing spouse and other family.
I'm so sorry to read this.
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I'm very sorry, Klaus.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
This hit me harder than I thought it would.
I understand this. My mother was a surprise, she got cancer and died in months at a young age (67). In my father's case, it was very much expected as he had been visibly declining for years, and he was in his 80s. SO I thought his death would be 'easier'. But it wasn't. Something about being an orphan really hits you.
When you shake someone's deep sense of self-worth, leaving a scar in their ego, they will persistently try to diminish you through petty arguments & obsessive captious criticism of your actions, just to soothe the wound.
- Nassim Nicholas Taleb
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Yes it does. I lost my mother in 1984 after a horrible lingering illness. It was expected and should have happened before it did. My father was sudden and a shock, but his health was pretty bad too. I lost them both to smoking.
It's an odd feeling to be parentless, and it makes me worry about my daughter as an only child. There isn't anything I can do about it but it's still a painful thought. It feels like I will be letting her down.
“I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill
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I found losing my second parent much more difficult to deal with than the first - you need to give yourself time to come to terms with it. It felt much more like the end of something, to me at least.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
I think the problem is that it is not only a human that dies. It's the death of a notion of "home", of a "safe place" full of memories. It is also a challenge for the future relation to siblings.
Since my mum died last May, I've been having regular video calls with my brother and his wife, which we never did before - every two weeks or so. I've found it very helpful. The Covid situation hasn't helped, obviously, since we can't visit, which I normally do 2-3 times a year.
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I'm really sorry, Klaus.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
It's the death of a notion of "home", of a "safe place" full of memories. It is also a challenge for the future relation to siblings.
Very well said. Everything is different now. She left an amazing son which must have been of some comfort to her, to be proud of her legacy. My condolences to you and your family.
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I’m so sorry.
