Goodbye, Mom
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I'm very sorry, Klaus.
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Whether it's a surprise or we know what's coming, the death of a parent is tough. The person that was always there, isn't.
Condolences to you and your family. May the Good Lord grant you and your family comfort in your time of grief.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
This hit me harder than I thought it would.
I understand this. My mother was a surprise, she got cancer and died in months at a young age (67). In my father's case, it was very much expected as he had been visibly declining for years, and he was in his 80s. SO I thought his death would be 'easier'. But it wasn't. Something about being an orphan really hits you.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
This hit me harder than I thought it would.
I understand this. My mother was a surprise, she got cancer and died in months at a young age (67). In my father's case, it was very much expected as he had been visibly declining for years, and he was in his 80s. SO I thought his death would be 'easier'. But it wasn't. Something about being an orphan really hits you.
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Yes it does. I lost my mother in 1984 after a horrible lingering illness. It was expected and should have happened before it did. My father was sudden and a shock, but his health was pretty bad too. I lost them both to smoking.
It's an odd feeling to be parentless, and it makes me worry about my daughter as an only child. There isn't anything I can do about it but it's still a painful thought. It feels like I will be letting her down.
āI am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.ā ~Winston S. Churchill
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I found losing my second parent much more difficult to deal with than the first - you need to give yourself time to come to terms with it. It felt much more like the end of something, to me at least.
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I think the problem is that it is not only a human that dies. It's the death of a notion of "home", of a "safe place" full of memories. It is also a challenge for the future relation to siblings.
@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
I think the problem is that it is not only a human that dies. It's the death of a notion of "home", of a "safe place" full of memories. It is also a challenge for the future relation to siblings.
Since my mum died last May, I've been having regular video calls with my brother and his wife, which we never did before - every two weeks or so. I've found it very helpful. The Covid situation hasn't helped, obviously, since we can't visit, which I normally do 2-3 times a year.
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I'm really sorry, Klaus.
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@klaus said in Goodbye, Mom:
It's the death of a notion of "home", of a "safe place" full of memories. It is also a challenge for the future relation to siblings.
Very well said. Everything is different now. She left an amazing son which must have been of some comfort to her, to be proud of her legacy. My condolences to you and your family.
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Iām so sorry.
