"I won't make fun of you...."

[Doctor Phibes]

@george-k said in "I won't make fun of you....":

@doctor-phibes what was the fallout from that?

Nothing, other than a very upset employee. The guy was a real shithead. Incidentally, he made my work life a living hell for about 5 years. In retrospect I realise I ended up suffering from depression because of him, and he made numerous people's lives an absolute misery - some people left, one guy had to take time off for clinical depression.

He'd worked there for decades, and was pretty much untouchable. The worst combination of arrogance and incompetence I've ever come across.

Sorry, I didn't mean to go off on a rant.

[George K]

[Doctor Phibes]

If this is a big company, then they should be able to report him.

Of course, their career's likely over if they do that.

[George K]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

If this is a big company, then they should be able to report him.

Of course, their career's likely over if they do that.

It's not. Small, small company. Perhaps 10 employees?

[Doctor Phibes]

It's hard to know what to do. If she complains and he isn't fired, it will likely just make her life worse.

[George K]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

he isn't fired,

He won't be.

His mother owns the company, and he runs it. As I said, small, small outfit.

[Axtremus]

Ditch this “family run” business and go work for a big corporation with a proper HR department.

[mark]

@axtremus said in "I won't make fun of you....":

Ditch this “family run” business and go work for a big corporation with a proper HR department.

Yes, but file a lawsuit.

[Axtremus]

@mark said in "I won't make fun of you....":

@axtremus said in "I won't make fun of you....":

Ditch this “family run” business and go work for a big corporation with a proper HR department.

Yes, but file a lawsuit.

You can do that, but in many states “small businesses” are exempt from some labor rules so it may be harder to sue successfully.

[Jolly]

If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

[Catseye3]

@mik said in "I won't make fun of you....":

Stupid remarks should not be the stuff of lawsuits.

I'm with Mik and also Ax on this. We really can't go crying to the system every time our feelings get hurt.

It's actually kind of snowflakey.

[Loki]

@jolly said in "I won't make fun of you....":

If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

I believe a pattern of behavior needs to be shown in many types of cases.

[Doctor Phibes]

If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

[Loki]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

Perfect.

[Catseye3]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

Yeah, okay. Then as an end note, go upside his head with a stapler.

[Horace]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

I think I had an online corporate training program on this issue that suggested that very response. While also making it clear that you can always go to HR if you'd like to.

[Aqua Letifer]

Set his car on fire?

[Doctor Phibes]

@aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

Set his car on fire?

Empty, or with him in it?

[George K]

@doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

@aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

Set his car on fire?

Empty, or with him in it?

Is that an incitement to violence?

[Doctor Phibes]

No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.