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  • LuFins DadL Offline
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    LuFins Dad
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    #4

    Cats are much better.

    The Brad

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    • LuFins DadL LuFins Dad

      Cats are much better.

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      George K
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      #5

      @LuFins-Dad said in Children are a gift from God:

      Cats are much better.

      Cheaper and friendlier too.

      "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

      The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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      • LuFins DadL LuFins Dad

        Children are clumps of cells that act like parasites on their mothers’ bodies, even after birth. They are inconvenient, will make you be poor forever, but can be taken care of with a simple medical procedure. And hey, that way you can take on sex as a hobby with no responsibilities!

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        Aqua Letifer
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        @LuFins-Dad said in Children are a gift from God:

        Children are clumps of cells that act like parasites on their mothers’ bodies, even after birth. They are inconvenient, will make you be poor forever, but can be taken care of with a simple medical procedure. And hey, that way you can take on sex as a hobby with no responsibilities!

        I find it interesting that one of the big arguments against is "there go my hobbies," "my life would be over," etc.

        Not having kids makes it difficult to have your personal interests mean anything. It's not impossible, but it is a challenge.

        Please love yourself.

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        • MikM Offline
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          Mik
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          #7

          Indeed, Aqua. What makes life worthwhile is having something or someone more important than yourself.

          “I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill

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          • MikM Mik

            AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

            89th8 Offline
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            89th
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            @Mik said in Children are a gift from God:

            AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

            I'd imagine eventually the government will extend "school" all the way to include age 0 and therefore daycare (and later preschool) will become a taxpayer-funded service, similar to public school today. On one hand, that would decrease the cost to parents and increase the pay for daycare and preschool teachers, on the other hand it'll further increase public reliance on the government to do everything.

            BTW I think in addition or to repeat what you all have said, I think there are fewer kids because:

            A) It's expensive
            B) People, namely women, are much more career focused (and/or require dual incomes) so people are waiting longer and longer to get married and then longer and longer to have their first kid, which makes having a 2nd or 3rd that much more unlikely

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            • 89th8 89th

              @Mik said in Children are a gift from God:

              AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

              I'd imagine eventually the government will extend "school" all the way to include age 0 and therefore daycare (and later preschool) will become a taxpayer-funded service, similar to public school today. On one hand, that would decrease the cost to parents and increase the pay for daycare and preschool teachers, on the other hand it'll further increase public reliance on the government to do everything.

              BTW I think in addition or to repeat what you all have said, I think there are fewer kids because:

              A) It's expensive
              B) People, namely women, are much more career focused (and/or require dual incomes) so people are waiting longer and longer to get married and then longer and longer to have their first kid, which makes having a 2nd or 3rd that much more unlikely

              JollyJ Offline
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              Jolly
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              @89th said in Children are a gift from God:

              @Mik said in Children are a gift from God:

              AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

              I'd imagine eventually the government will extend "school" all the way to include age 0 and therefore daycare (and later preschool) will become a taxpayer-funded service, similar to public school today. On one hand, that would decrease the cost to parents and increase the pay for daycare and preschool teachers, on the other hand it'll further increase public reliance on the government to do everything.

              BTW I think in addition or to repeat what you all have said, I think there are fewer kids because:

              A) It's expensive
              B) People, namely women, are much more career focused (and/or require dual incomes) so people are waiting longer and longer to get married and then longer and longer to have their first kid, which makes having a 2nd or 3rd that much more unlikely

              Case-in-point... FOX personality Kat Timpf graduated from Hillsdale, then almost went to Columbia...

              https://www.nationalreview.com/2019/04/we-should-be-advising-young-people-to-not-take-out-loans-they-cant-afford/

              She couldn't afford it . She did odds and ends, wrote for multiple websites (NRO, Washington Times,etc.), did some radio work and eventually climbed the ladder at FOX News.

              She didn't marry until she was in her thirties and now she is pregnant with their first child at 35. Depending on how her pregnancy (and career) goes, how many children will she have? Maybe just this one.

              I think this is a pretty common story nowadays.

              “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

              Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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              • MikM Offline
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                Mik
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                High paying jobs are not 9-5 anymore. More like 5-9.

                “I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill

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                • JollyJ Jolly

                  @89th said in Children are a gift from God:

                  @Mik said in Children are a gift from God:

                  AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

                  I'd imagine eventually the government will extend "school" all the way to include age 0 and therefore daycare (and later preschool) will become a taxpayer-funded service, similar to public school today. On one hand, that would decrease the cost to parents and increase the pay for daycare and preschool teachers, on the other hand it'll further increase public reliance on the government to do everything.

                  BTW I think in addition or to repeat what you all have said, I think there are fewer kids because:

                  A) It's expensive
                  B) People, namely women, are much more career focused (and/or require dual incomes) so people are waiting longer and longer to get married and then longer and longer to have their first kid, which makes having a 2nd or 3rd that much more unlikely

                  Case-in-point... FOX personality Kat Timpf graduated from Hillsdale, then almost went to Columbia...

                  https://www.nationalreview.com/2019/04/we-should-be-advising-young-people-to-not-take-out-loans-they-cant-afford/

                  She couldn't afford it . She did odds and ends, wrote for multiple websites (NRO, Washington Times,etc.), did some radio work and eventually climbed the ladder at FOX News.

                  She didn't marry until she was in her thirties and now she is pregnant with their first child at 35. Depending on how her pregnancy (and career) goes, how many children will she have? Maybe just this one.

                  I think this is a pretty common story nowadays.

                  Aqua LetiferA Offline
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                  Aqua Letifer
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                  @Jolly said in Children are a gift from God:

                  @89th said in Children are a gift from God:

                  @Mik said in Children are a gift from God:

                  AI might just fix #3. I doubt it, but if we're all put out of work...

                  I'd imagine eventually the government will extend "school" all the way to include age 0 and therefore daycare (and later preschool) will become a taxpayer-funded service, similar to public school today. On one hand, that would decrease the cost to parents and increase the pay for daycare and preschool teachers, on the other hand it'll further increase public reliance on the government to do everything.

                  BTW I think in addition or to repeat what you all have said, I think there are fewer kids because:

                  A) It's expensive
                  B) People, namely women, are much more career focused (and/or require dual incomes) so people are waiting longer and longer to get married and then longer and longer to have their first kid, which makes having a 2nd or 3rd that much more unlikely

                  Case-in-point... FOX personality Kat Timpf graduated from Hillsdale, then almost went to Columbia...

                  https://www.nationalreview.com/2019/04/we-should-be-advising-young-people-to-not-take-out-loans-they-cant-afford/

                  She couldn't afford it . She did odds and ends, wrote for multiple websites (NRO, Washington Times,etc.), did some radio work and eventually climbed the ladder at FOX News.

                  She didn't marry until she was in her thirties and now she is pregnant with their first child at 35. Depending on how her pregnancy (and career) goes, how many children will she have? Maybe just this one.

                  I think this is a pretty common story nowadays.

                  More or less what my wife and I both did.

                  My parents like to spin a good yarn about how destitute they were starting out and "you don't know how good you have it." But they're looking at the quality of and affordability of televisions and microwaves, not modern employee expectations, housing, the job market, etc.

                  Please love yourself.

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                  • MikM Offline
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                    Mik
                    wrote on last edited by
                    #12

                    We were not as much a consumer society at that point. Until the 80's you might have a TV and a stereo. No microwaves, no computers, no smart phones, no VCRs, no McMansions.

                    “I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill

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                    • LuFins DadL Offline
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                      LuFins Dad
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                      #13

                      Kids are inconvenient.

                      The Brad

                      JollyJ 1 Reply Last reply
                      • LuFins DadL LuFins Dad

                        Kids are inconvenient.

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                        Jolly
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                        @LuFins-Dad said in Children are a gift from God:

                        Kids are inconvenient.

                        Not to Planned Parenthood.

                        “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                        Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                        • George KG George K

                          @LuFins-Dad said in Children are a gift from God:

                          Cats are much better.

                          Cheaper and friendlier too.

                          George KG Offline
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                          George K
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                          @George-K said in Children are a gift from God:

                          @LuFins-Dad said in Children are a gift from God:
                          Cats are much better.

                          Cheaper and friendlier too.

                          "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                          The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                            blondie
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                            Gotta be willing to put a child’s needs before your own. Having kids is very expensive.
                            Just speculating, but parent generations now might be experiencing a generation of grandparents who are too old to help raise the grandkids. They also have fewer siblings to help out as aunties or uncles.

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                            • B blondie

                              Gotta be willing to put a child’s needs before your own. Having kids is very expensive.
                              Just speculating, but parent generations now might be experiencing a generation of grandparents who are too old to help raise the grandkids. They also have fewer siblings to help out as aunties or uncles.

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                              George K
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                              @blondie said in Children are a gift from God:

                              a generation of grandparents who are too old to help raise the grandkids

                              G2 is 6, G3 is 2. Mrs. George and I are 74.

                              Three hours with them is exhausting.

                              That said, I was, for the most part, raised by my grandmother - both parents worked. I went to college when she was 71.

                              "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                              The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                                blondie
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                                Talking to some millennials in my city, they shout loudly they compete to get 600 sq ft rental units, stress over rent increases, don’t have vehicles, commute at all hours on a crappy transit system and/or do remote work from their bedrooms, struggle to find primary careers and their 2nd side jobs, then work just to be downsized/laid off. They are stressed and depressed. Many don’t date or socialize and say they can’t afford to (money & time wise). I get the feeling they have declining hope for their futures. I don’t hear any of them ponder having kids. Some dream of owning a condo but say it’s impossible. They are stuck in now mode and aren’t too future positive. They blame boomers, corporate greed, the government.

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                                  blondie
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                                  @George-K I couldn’t handle being a grandparent. I can’t do it.

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                                    Jolly
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                                    I enjoy mine. I kept my six year-old grandson today.

                                    “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                                    Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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                                      LuFins Dad
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                                      Millennials and Gen Z? I’ve had quite a few as employees over the last few years.

                                      Of the 6, 3 now own their own places. The other 3 rent, on their own. I expect 1 will be buying a house soon. The other 2 won’t until after grad school. All have had a modicum of support from the parents, but most also had side gigs. 2 of them had problems because they were spending too much on travel and going out, but have corrected course. One, I’ve gotten him to use the debt snowball to pay off his college and car loans, open an IRA, and buy a cheap condo rather than rent. He’s now gotten married and doing great.

                                      The Brad

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