Dewey's post
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 20:36 last edited by
I understand that some believe there is an ethical reason not to post this; there isn't. It is meant as a public communication.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 20:37 last edited by
I've already given my comments privately. I think I'll let them stay that way.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 20:42 last edited by
I wonder if this is surprising to anybody who goes all slack-jawed when Dewey's character has ever been questioned.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 20:46 last edited by Klaus 8 Feb 2022, 20:55
OK, I guess I may just as well copy my reply over here, then:
I just saw Dewey's essay about Larry's passing.
What a rotten thing to do.
Really cheap.
Well, I can see why Dewey felt that way. Larry was quite abusive towards him. He was abusive to quite a few people. He wasn't a tough shell with a soft core. I always viewed him as a kind of NPC, or caricature, who shouldn't be taken too seriously; that way, I could view his vitriol in a humorous way most of the time and focus on the parts where he said something interesting. I also always had the suspicion that the way he portrayed himself online was not congruent with the life he actually lived.
Whether it's a good idea to make these thoughts public two days after he passed away is a different matter... I guess that applies to my own thoughts, too - oops!
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OK, I guess I may just as well copy my reply over here, then:
I just saw Dewey's essay about Larry's passing.
What a rotten thing to do.
Really cheap.
Well, I can see why Dewey felt that way. Larry was quite abusive towards him. He was abusive to quite a few people. He wasn't a tough shell with a soft core. I always viewed him as a kind of NPC, or caricature, who shouldn't be taken too seriously; that way, I could view his vitriol in a humorous way most of the time and focus on the parts where he said something interesting. I also always had the suspicion that the way he portrayed himself online was not congruent with the life he actually lived.
Whether it's a good idea to make these thoughts public two days after he passed away is a different matter... I guess that applies to my own thoughts, too - oops!
wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:02 last edited by Horace 8 Feb 2022, 21:32@Klaus said in Dewey's post:
OK, I guess I may just as well copy my reply over here, then:
I just saw Dewey's essay about Larry's passing.
What a rotten thing to do.
Really cheap.
Well, I can see why Dewey felt that way. Larry was quite abusive towards him. He was abusive to quite a few people. He wasn't a tough shell with a soft core. I always viewed him as a kind of NPC, or caricature, who shouldn't be taken too seriously; that way, I could view his vitriol in a humorous way most of the time and focus on the parts where he said something interesting. I also always had the suspicion that the way he portrayed himself online was not congruent with the life he actually lived.
Whether it's a good idea to make these thoughts public two days after he passed away is a different matter... I guess that applies to my own thoughts, too - oops!
Standard destructive righteousness, from a person inclined to destructive righteousness. Spitting on a grave, making accusations that the deceased would obviously deny, becomes morally good, because the deceased was so morally evil. That's how that works. And, predictably, it resonates with those with the same righteous impulses. People inevitably self select, whether they intend to or not.
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@Klaus said in Dewey's post:
OK, I guess I may just as well copy my reply over here, then:
I just saw Dewey's essay about Larry's passing.
What a rotten thing to do.
Really cheap.
Well, I can see why Dewey felt that way. Larry was quite abusive towards him. He was abusive to quite a few people. He wasn't a tough shell with a soft core. I always viewed him as a kind of NPC, or caricature, who shouldn't be taken too seriously; that way, I could view his vitriol in a humorous way most of the time and focus on the parts where he said something interesting. I also always had the suspicion that the way he portrayed himself online was not congruent with the life he actually lived.
Whether it's a good idea to make these thoughts public two days after he passed away is a different matter... I guess that applies to my own thoughts, too - oops!
Standard destructive righteousness, from a person inclined to destructive righteousness. Spitting on a grave, making accusations that the deceased would obviously deny, becomes morally good, because the deceased was so morally evil. That's how that works. And, predictably, it resonates with those with the same righteous impulses. People inevitably self select, whether they intend to or not.
wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:16 last edited by@Horace said in Dewey's post:
And, predictably, it resonates with those with the same righteous impulses
Yup, they are ganging up on Larry over there on Dewey's Facebook timeline.
I added a bit of wisdom, but it didn't last long, Dewey deleted it right away.
There is a good supply of virtue on display for those who like that sort of thing.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:23 last edited by
I suppose a lot of people try to fashion their publicly expressed thoughts and feels so that those soulless mediocrities ganging up on Larry, will say nice things about them after they pass.
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@Horace said in Dewey's post:
And, predictably, it resonates with those with the same righteous impulses
Yup, they are ganging up on Larry over there on Dewey's Facebook timeline.
I added a bit of wisdom, but it didn't last long, Dewey deleted it right away.
There is a good supply of virtue on display for those who like that sort of thing.
wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:28 last edited by@Copper said in Dewey's post:
There is a good supply of virtue on display for those who like that sort of thing.
A little whiny under the circumstances, maybe a little self indulgent. I don't quite see why he felt the need to say what he said. What was he hoping to accomplish?
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:30 last edited by
Getting the last 5,000 words in, evidently.
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@Copper said in Dewey's post:
There is a good supply of virtue on display for those who like that sort of thing.
A little whiny under the circumstances, maybe a little self indulgent. I don't quite see why he felt the need to say what he said. What was he hoping to accomplish?
wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:31 last edited by@Catseye3 said in Dewey's post:
@Copper said in Dewey's post:
There is a good supply of virtue on display for those who like that sort of thing.
A little whiny under the circumstances, maybe a little self indulgent. I don't quite see why he felt the need to say what he said. What was he hoping to accomplish?
Catharsis.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 21:55 last edited by
I'm not going to criticize what he said.
What he feels, he feels.
However, some respect for the dead, even if they may never see it, is warranted. Let the corpse cool, at least.
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wrote on 2 Aug 2022, 22:00 last edited by
I got more criticism last time I said bad things about Dewey here than he's getting for taking a crap on Larry's grave.
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wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 01:20 last edited by
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
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wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 01:28 last edited by
I never much cared for Dewey’s tendency to proselytise through the back door.
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wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 01:41 last edited by
And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment, - Hebrews 9:27
Dewey will answer to God, as will we all.
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I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 01:46 last edited by@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
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@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 01:56 last edited by@Horace said in Dewey's post:
@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
It is not that I dont have a problem with it, but I can understand his frustration. Larry said some stuff to me that almost made me delete this forum board, and he said worst things to others. I ultimately figured Larry was just playing a internet character, and that he really was a big teddy bear. Keeping that in my mind, I just moved forward with that thinking. And, in the end, I think I got along "okay" with him.
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wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 02:01 last edited by
@Renauda said in Dewey's post:
I never much cared for Dewey’s tendency to proselytise through the back door.
I see what you did there…
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@Horace said in Dewey's post:
@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
It is not that I dont have a problem with it, but I can understand his frustration. Larry said some stuff to me that almost made me delete this forum board, and he said worst things to others. I ultimately figured Larry was just playing a internet character, and that he really was a big teddy bear. Keeping that in my mind, I just moved forward with that thinking. And, in the end, I think I got along "okay" with him.
wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 02:03 last edited by@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
@Horace said in Dewey's post:
@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
It is not that I dont have a problem with it, but I can understand his frustration. Larry said some stuff to me that almost made me delete this forum board, and he said worst things to others. I ultimately figured Larry was just playing a internet character, and that he really was a big teddy bear. Keeping that in my mind, I just moved forward with that thinking. And, in the end, I think I got along "okay" with him.
I wasn't intending a referendum on your feelings about Larry. I was wondering about your feelings about a man of the cloth, a self described divinely touched True Believer, holding a grudge over online arguments, and claiming one of his old adversaries, soon after the man died, didn't believe in the religion they nominally share. That's the part that I was wondering whether you have a problem with.
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@Horace said in Dewey's post:
@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
It is not that I dont have a problem with it, but I can understand his frustration. Larry said some stuff to me that almost made me delete this forum board, and he said worst things to others. I ultimately figured Larry was just playing a internet character, and that he really was a big teddy bear. Keeping that in my mind, I just moved forward with that thinking. And, in the end, I think I got along "okay" with him.
wrote on 3 Aug 2022, 02:53 last edited by@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
@Horace said in Dewey's post:
@taiwan_girl said in Dewey's post:
I like @dewey. He was also nice to me, was genuine, and seemed a person who has strong beliefs, which were generally quite opposite from Larry. I did not realize that he and Larry were once good friends.
One of the things that the forum board has done well is allow people to express their opinions. If someone has been wronged by someone, I have no problem with them speaking their thoughts and feelings.
Making accusations, including about the deceased’s belief in his religion? You have no problem with that? That surprises me TG.
It is not that I dont have a problem with it, but I can understand his frustration. Larry said some stuff to me that almost made me delete this forum board, and he said worst things to others. I ultimately figured Larry was just playing a internet character, and that he really was a big teddy bear. Keeping that in my mind, I just moved forward with that thinking. And, in the end, I think I got along "okay" with him.
Well said. Similar to @Klaus ‘s take on it earlier in this thread. Same for me, I never took Larry’s “cranking of the vitriol-o-meter to the max” personally.
Many times I had him pegged in a corner as I poked the Tennessee bear, just as I’m sure he thought he had me cornered too.
Larry was sincere, an attribute I value quite highly when I think of someone. Whether it’s TNCR or IRL I have found it’s best not too let folks get to you, always look for the good, and appreciate your time learning from others. The only time someone’s negative words ever cause damage is if you let them.