@jon-nyc said in An interesting question:
I’m a GenXer cut from WASP cloth and would never talk to a therapist about anything unless she were cute.
I’m a boomer. I wouldn’t waste good money on “therapy” .. & even if he was cute, 50, and served assorted teas and snacks. Heck, funeral homes serve up empathy and snacks for free after services. And I’m at an age where I’m going to these services regularly.
@Mik .. She’s typical of her generation of therapists (being mother of one). She’s likely had little exposure with those of “The Silent Generation”. If so, she’d have a little empathy (and maybe some respect) for how little information we boomers got of our own parents’ and grandparents’ health matters. This forms part of who we are and how we communicate our emotions. We learned growing up that “I didn’t mean to worry you”, or “We wanted to know for sure before we told you”, was often said for a reason .. a reason we boomers accepted and didn’t question. We accepted our elders wisdom and rationale for what they shared/didn’t, and I believe we had less anxiety than young ones today.
Case in point: My mom said little to nothing to my brother of dad’s last 24 hrs in hospital, up to and including dad’s death. Why? Little brother, after years of trying, finally had his interview for a corporate job at the place he worked. That interview happened the morning dad died. I understood. My brother understood too, later, after he was told.
Nowadays, I just think of Larry …
I’ve quit caffeine x2 before. Went with decaffeinated too. Odd, but first time I quit had wild, sometimes scary dreams when I switched over. But now, the decaf doesn’t affect my sleep. I couldn’t give up coffee completely. I just like its taste, esp. when it’s cold outside. I’m meh with tea.
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you.
Great pics @89th 
@Mik I’m having flashbacks. Never again will I live in a place with sliding glass door on a tub.
I prefer full 1 piece acrylic tub-showers and large single shower units with non sliding glass doors (like for new builds). I dislike cleaning tile this much, and just use tile to the ceiling above and as an accent for surrounds. Saying this, I did do a stand-alone rectangular tub in the most recent master bath. For resale reasons only. I searched quite a while finding one that was long enough & shallow enough .. like retiree friendly. That area got half height large format rectangular tile on 3 walls. Good for hanging wet towels on both ends I suppose.
@89th .. Your updated kitchen is modern, yet your choices will endure through what’s trending now for a long time. Good design decisions.
I’m still a split sink person. I don’t know why .. maybe because I don’t use or wash many large pots? or cook much? Lol. No grate for me either .. I’m good with scratches. But I need that garburator. I’m a heavy gauge stainless girl too. In the most recent (2025) house build, I decided to heck with the tile backsplash and went full-on Vicostone (I sourced their hush-hush price list & chose an older thus cheaper neutral pattern for the island, counters and backsplash). I get so upfront stressed with interior designers & design decisions, then get easily bored afterwards with the color & pattern of tile. And I don’t want to spend $$ & time to upgrade. I also spent 3 decades worrying of sauce & grease stains on grout, so here, now, it’s full-on same-on backsplash & counters for me.
@89th You’ve a beautiful kitchen. Stunning. I really like your countertop. The tile goes really well. Good choices! 
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Wow. @89th. Beautiful. I wish we had the climate to grow cedar like this. Our chinooks aren’t kind. I love your maples. Fall and spring are my favourite seasons.
Memories of my folks outside on the patio. Kinda makes me smile. I was mixing Caesars, martinis for my parents from a pretty young age.
@Mik I refuse to believe you’re 70.
All of us here are younger.
Terrifying! I saw some of this footage yesterday. Did I hear the building behind is a hospital? Can you imagine being a patient there watching out a window as all this unfolds? Yikes.
Wow. Impressive and inspiring. Both of you!
Your muscle gain is awesome @Horace . How old are you, btw?
I remember doing the InBody thing in my 50s. The results helped motivate me.
Wow. That’s a lot of work completed in the heat of summer!
You’re pretty patient @brenda . Messing on my sewing box would be a serious offence for any critter on my porch!
@89th We’ve a couple of similar homes on our street. One has obvious hail damage on the back & I’m betting leakage within too. Kind of hard to judge absent homeowners’ situations because being out of country can pose multiple complications. Although I’m kind of sick of shovelling absent homeowners’ sidewalks in the freezing winter, I do it anyway, because there are old people having to walk down the street to get their mail from our common mailbox location. I don’t want them to slip and fall. Our lots are only 25 ft wide.
@blondie said in What else is new?:
@AndyD You’ve a really cool house! I love the inlay on your piano too.
@AndyD You’ve a really cool house!
@Renauda Interesting what you say of drywall corner beading. I’m going to re look at the front porch (which is covered btw). Where I’d really first like to put Trex on this house is on the front and back door Stair treads because they are exposed to snow and rain.