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@89th I saw that last one on IG this morning. Surreal.

@Mik said in It takes 10 seconds:

That's a long way for a 2 year old.

Yes. Quite.
I’m so glad she was found 89th! Time really does slow down in that moment, doesn’t it?! You’ll never forget this evening. My gosh. So scary.

My moment happened when my son was 3, in a small department store, when he climbed out of his stroller as I was paying for stuff. I turned my back for a moment. The store was packed, smack dab downtown with 3 exits out to: 1) the train platform, 2) the drug-users & noontime office madness street fest, or 3) the busy street with multiple bus stops & taxis. My heart literally stopped. The only thing I thought to do was yell: “[His Name]! Stay where you are! Don’t You Move!” .. or something like that. Then the cashiers & security got involved. Somewhere, near the train exit, someone found him hiding under a rack of scarves. He was oblivious to my state of panic.

Congratulations to both of you!

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@jon-nyc said in Mildly interesting:

That surprised me too. More spinsters as med died more frequently at a younger age?

I had a surprising number of maiden great aunts who were born in the 1890's, but I think that was probably due to WW1. The impact of that war would have been less noticeable in the US as a considerably smaller proportion of the male population died.

Did the US Civil War affect the 1900 figures?

Me too. My great aunts raised my grandpa in MA. They were from Quebec and relocated to the U.S.. The way I heard it, it was due to the Spanish Flu .. grandpa’s parents died; he was left an orphan, but too young yet to work in factories there.
Here, in Alberta, I know ladies, being the last (youngest) sisters, who never marry. They stay in their family homes to care for their parents. Not uncommon.

I’m praying you stay safe and your hospital stays safe Bach.

I like JFK’s. Classy.

@Mik said in 2025 Pride - Day 4:

I only have anger on one issue - bio men competing in women's sports. It's just wrong.

This bothers me too. And I believe I saw it when I competed in powerlifting. I remember one individual who simply dominated “her” peers.
I do have empathy for those born with ambiguous genitalia. I saw this long ago as a PICU nurse. The boys’ parents were told to raise them as girls and had a team of people helping them. There were hormones and surgery, and psych people supporting that as they matured. How scary for the parents and the children. I don’t know how any of them grew up, whether they competed in sports, whether they had friends, how they felt gender wise. But growing up, no matter who and what we are, we all make comparisons with our peers; we want to be normal; we judge ourselves against others. What a tormenting time for those having to navigate parenthood with a new baby with ambiguous sex characteristics.

@89th …. “It's Trump's litmus test, whether you like him or not.”
Yup .. good observation .

Congratulations!
Gorgeous dresses … I really like the flower girl’s!

“Where’s Jolly? I miss him ”

There are entire chunks of my kid’s childhood I can’t recall. I don’t know if it’s due to stress, exhaustion, or hangovers, but it bugs me when I hear “Hey, do you remember when …”, and I have zero recollection of certain vacations, parties, school events, Christmases, birthdays. Everyone else remembers but me

I think my school did some of these things too. Those last weeks were celebratory. I, though, could not attend. It was determined I had the wrong PhysEd course for my university entrance (my credits were from another school), so in order for a mark to be submitted for the right course, the principal and PhysEd teachers had me doing all sorts of stupid stuff during grad week. One of my tasks was to have the grade 10s practice their golf drives in the field, another was chaperoning students to a local 9 hole course.

Wow. What a trip. Have fun.

I’m told a person needs to tackle first the thing causing the most anxiety. Ha, that’s what I preach to my boyz. So, in my case, perhaps strength training & cardio needs to start with housework!

Truthfully, I gotta get back to some cardio & weight training. Isolation during Covid, menopause, mourning my youth, turned me into a fat lazy hermit. I’m still in this funk.

Well, @89th, I was in a sh*t state of existence at 43, in the early days of tncr. Running (totally new to me) and weight training (also new), helped with clarity, planted better habits. I gotta thank @kluurs for his wisdom, help with this. Now, occasionally, I might feel obliged to order a beer at a pub, but honestly, it’s just to toast with others; it goes unfinished. There’s zippo at home except wine that gets gifted to us. I save, crack that open for visitors. Alcohol sparks zero joy. Wasted calories.

Pretty sure that Jeep is fuelled with beer.

I never saw @Jolly ’s pic either. I always imagined him around 5’6” with real muscular hands.

Good for you @89th. You’re young. And smart. I recognized the binge thingie in myself around your age, and knew I had to do something about it. So I did.

@Renauda said in tncr is sick:

Am going to be in Kananaskis from 5 through 7 June camping and lake kayaking. Our graduation present for the grade 12’er.

@Renauda Lucky Kid! You’re good parents.