December 2020
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@jon-nyc said in December 2020:
I think you've made your own discount factors quite clear. I doubt anyone is unclear about how you feel.
It’s not a discount factor at all. We won’t even get into the fact that the 80 year often has self proclaimed a life worth living and many have spouses, kids, grandkids and a legacy to be proud of.
None of the 18 year olds got any of that.
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I'm not ready to go but I can understand being there. It is a perspective the young simply cannot have. There comes a point where you have accomplished pretty much all you are going to and life starts taking away more than it gives you. You have run your race and with any luck you're pretty happy with how you did it.
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@Horace said in December 2020:
My parents felt that way. My dad was ready to go, but not eager to. He knows he did a good job here. Thankfully, he's still around.
That’s right. That’s the goal to be ready to die and have gone through the important stages. Erik Erickson has a lot to say about where you should be at each decade of your life in terms of personal development. Piaget too.
Zeke Emmanuel thinks you should die at 75. He’s on Biden’s Covid advisory board. I would never ever vote for that philosophy.
Finally people in hospice hang on often and kids want their parents to hang on because there are life long unresolved issues. Best to not wait until the end for that stuff.
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My father and I had issues that had issues from way back. By the time I was 29 or so I realized I could hold on to these and let them sour the relationship forever or I could acknowledge he was a human being with flaws...just like me. It took some time, especially since he was that generation that was never, ever going to talk about how he felt about anything. We got through it and had a good relationship his last 15 or 20 years.
It's not worth it. I strongly urge folks to let these things go.
