Would it be rude to ask?

[George K]

There's a lady in our building, let's call her "Mary," who is on the .. heavier side. She's about 5'3" tall, and I'd peg her at about 275 if not a bit more. She's single and lives with her cat(s).

(don't go there, please)

I saw her for the first time in a while this afternoon, and she looked like she's dropped about 50 pounds.

Would it be rude to say, "Hey, Mary! Have you lost weight?"

Something tells me it would.

[LuFins Dad]

I’d ask if it was a boy or a girl?

[George K]

@LuFins-Dad said in Would it be rude to ask?:

I’d ask if it was a boy or a girl?

She's not a biologist.

[Copper]

Ask her if she got a new hat.

There is something different, I just can't put my finger on it.

And don't put your finger on it.

[Mik]

Just tell her she looks great and let her take the lead if she likes.

[jon-nyc]

What Mik said.

[89th]

What Jon said.

[blondie]

What Copper said. I made the mistake of complimenting someone who dropped a bunch of weight. I didn’t know it was due to Cancer. I say nothing now of anyone’s weight loss.

[George K]

@Copper said in Would it be rude to ask?:

Ask her if she got a new hat.

There is something different, I just can't put my finger on it.

And don't put your finger on it.

Years ago I read a story in the paper about "How to wear your wig for the first time to work."

The article suggested that you grow a beard, or mustache and keep it for a few months. Then, when you're ready to wear the wig, shave the facial hair...

"There's something different...."

[Doctor Phibes]

@George-K said in Would it be rude to ask?:

@Copper said in Would it be rude to ask?:

Ask her if she got a new hat.

There is something different, I just can't put my finger on it.

And don't put your finger on it.

Years ago I read a story in the paper about "How to wear your wig for the first time to work."

The article suggested that you grow a beard, or mustache and keep it for a few months. Then, when you're ready to wear the wig, shave the facial hair...

"There's something different...."

I worked with a middle-aged guy who suddenly dyed his hair a very red colour, which looked a little, shall we say, unusual. I didn't say anything at all about it, despite the fact that he clearly wanted me to. A couple of days later my boss in a meeting used the phrase 'We'll get beaten like a red-headed stepchild', then paused and said 'No offence, Dave'.

[taiwan_girl]

@George-K any update?