“We encourage you to list your preferred pronoun”

[89th]

@LuFins-Dad said in “We encourage you to list your preferred pronoun”:

To the other extreme you have some kid that’s uncomfortable in their own skin (hardly unusual) and believe there is something wrong with themselves. Sometimes this manifests as girls with bulimia, guys that aren’t even athletes working out to excessive degrees that usually leads to steroids when they don’t achieve what they are searching for… Now, for a lot of these kids, a seeming explanation for their physical unease is simple… They are trans… It’s now a normal, easy, and even celebrated explanation. They are generally good kids. Just caught up in a hormonal overload mixed with a little depression, a little bit of autism, and a whole lot of low self esteem. These kids don’t deserve to be lumped into the same category as the freak fetishists.

This is a really good perspective, IMO. One of my primary/gut reactions to keeping the agenda of LGBT out of children's minds is exactly this... It's a trendy, easy, and instant-identity-value way of tackling what is otherwise normal growing pains, puberty, adolescence, and overall awkwardness of addressing sexuality as one enters puberty.

I remember growing up there would be plenty of times kids in the neighborhood would be called names, or we would go behind someone's shed and play the "show me yours I'll show you mine" game. Or we'd play smear the queer (although now I understand why my parents told us not to yell the game name so loudly LOL). As we (as boys) began to hit puberty, I recall a few times we'd be at a friends house who was.... looking at a porn magazine, or in one case said he had to go in the bathroom for a bit. In another example, someone was bold enough to talk about how they had an erection in their pants. Hardy har har... all stupid stuff.

These days when those types of things happen, I would imagine the immediate topic would be "oh, are you gay? or are you trans?".

From a much larger perspective, what is trans anyway? If male vs female is based on sex, but man vs woman is based on gender.... isn't gender really more of a view of what is traditionally masculine vs feminine? For example, if a biological female thinks she's really a man, isn't it more that she feels more aligned with traditionally masculine cultural norms? Can't she just be a masculine female (or on the flip side, can't men just be feminine males?) without some mental disability or disorder where the person truly thinks they are the opposite of what their genetics say?

[Jolly]

IOW, do tomboys still exist?

[LuFins Dad]

Ouch.. Just picked up a cup of coffee.. Donald the Barista has a They/Them name tag. I get my coffee and without thinking say “Thank you, good sir!”

Oh well…