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  • AxtremusA Offline
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    “Personal satisfaction” sounds more fun than “an ordeal.”

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    • MikM Offline
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      But ultimately empty. There's never anything but the next thing..."I'll be happy when....".

      Still, ordeal was probably not the best choice of words.

      "You cannot subsidize irresponsibility and expect people to become more responsible." — Thomas Sowell

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        I read once that a good marriage is where it’s not 50/50, but 60/40 (or 80/20), you always want to give 60% and in a good marriage so does the other person. My marriage isn’t perfect, but that would be the advice I give other newlyweds for sure.

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          The best advice I ever got is make sure she's your friend alongside everything else.

          "You cannot subsidize irresponsibility and expect people to become more responsible." — Thomas Sowell

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            I read once that a good marriage is where it’s not 50/50, but 60/40 (or 80/20), you always want to give 60% and in a good marriage so does the other person. My marriage isn’t perfect, but that would be the advice I give other newlyweds for sure.

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            @89th said in I liked this quote:

            good marriage

            As if there is a timeless, universal definition for what that is.

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            • AxtremusA Axtremus

              @89th said in I liked this quote:

              good marriage

              As if there is a timeless, universal definition for what that is.

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              @Axtremus said in I liked this quote:

              @89th said in I liked this quote:

              good marriage

              As if there is a timeless, universal definition for what that is.

              The Anna Karenina Principle.

              "All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

              I was only joking

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              • MikM Offline
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                I don't think there is a firm definition, no, but I do think there are some commonalities that most happy marriages share.

                "You cannot subsidize irresponsibility and expect people to become more responsible." — Thomas Sowell

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                  Notice the subtle shift from "good" to "happy."

                  Easier to achieve consensus for "happy" than it is for "good."

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                  • AxtremusA Axtremus

                    Notice the subtle shift from "good" to "happy."

                    Easier to achieve consensus for "happy" than it is for "good."

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                    @Axtremus said in I liked this quote:

                    Notice the subtle shift from "good" to "happy."

                    Easier to achieve consensus for "happy" than it is for "good."

                    Can you think of any examples of bad marriages that are happy, or good marriages that are not?

                    I was only joking

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                      Ask the question the other way: can you think of marriages where the couples are "happy" and yet not viewed as "good" by third parties?

                      The royals, the gays, the interracial, the interfaith, the old+rich marrying the young+beautiful, etc.

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                      • AxtremusA Axtremus

                        Ask the question the other way: can you think of marriages where the couples are "happy" and yet not viewed as "good" by third parties?

                        The royals, the gays, the interracial, the interfaith, the old+rich marrying the young+beautiful, etc.

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                        @Axtremus said in I liked this quote:

                        Ask the question the other way: can you think of marriages where the couples are "happy" and yet not viewed as "good" by third parties?

                        The royals, the gays, the interracial, the interfaith, the old+rich marrying the young+beautiful, etc.

                        If I wanted to play word games I'd be logged into Squaredle

                        I was only joking

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