I think I just tanked an interview
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@Jolly said in I think I just tanked an interview:
‘He that hath wife and children hath given hostages to fortune’. - Francis Bacon
Meh. I don't really buy that.
Life's got a handful of plates on sticks. Gotta keep 'em all spinning at a rate you're happy with, and that'll change over time.
I hate my working life these days but I'll be damned if I'm going to just sit back and do nothing to change it. Expect weird updates in the next 18 months.
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Expect weird updates in the next 18 months.
As if the last 16 years have been "normal."
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@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Expect weird updates in the next 18 months.
As if the last 16 years have been "normal."
@George-K said in I think I just tanked an interview:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Expect weird updates in the next 18 months.
As if the last 16 years have been "normal."
My wife knows full well how weird I am. The trend will continue!
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@George-K said in I think I just tanked an interview:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Expect weird updates in the next 18 months.
As if the last 16 years have been "normal."
My wife knows full well how weird I am. The trend will continue!
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
My wife knows full well how weird I am.
Of course she does. If she were in her right mind, she wouldn't have married you without knowing that!
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@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
My wife knows full well how weird I am.
Of course she does. If she were in her right mind, she wouldn't have married you without knowing that!
@George-K said in I think I just tanked an interview:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
My wife knows full well how weird I am.
Of course she does. If she were in her right mind, she wouldn't have married you without knowing that!
She's part of our D&D group. She can hang.
Please love yourself.
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Ho Ly Shit.
Got an email out of the blue from an old employer. They want freelance help.
Might be able to build on that, either there or elsewhere. At the very least it would prevent an employment gap after my absolutely inevitable firing, and get me some street cred with my old industry again.
It would fall in line perfectly with my plan to work only for myself by the time I'm 40. Good enough place to start.
My old boss's email was so nice I wanted to cry. I got on well with him and his son. They paid basically nothing but the job was great and I was proud of the work.
Regarding that, and my 40 plan: Whoever said that folks tend to get more conservative as they get older was full of shit. What they really mean is that people lose motivation in the things they used to love, and that's one way of making excuses for giving up on yourself. Security, right? Well, some of that is okay. Having a family necessarily means that you have to live less selfishly. But my mom sacrificed too much. She put up with too much shit to make our lives comfortable and it really screwed our family up. She wasn't okay, so neither were we.
Right now, without even trying, I have enough money to easily buy a flagship Leica and a handful of their lenses, and I can't remember when I've been more miserable. At my old job, I could barely afford clothes but things were fine. Even great sometimes.
I'd very much like to re-up on poor, please. Show me where to sign.
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Ho Ly Shit.
Got an email out of the blue from an old employer. They want freelance help.
Might be able to build on that, either there or elsewhere. At the very least it would prevent an employment gap after my absolutely inevitable firing, and get me some street cred with my old industry again.
It would fall in line perfectly with my plan to work only for myself by the time I'm 40. Good enough place to start.
My old boss's email was so nice I wanted to cry. I got on well with him and his son. They paid basically nothing but the job was great and I was proud of the work.
Regarding that, and my 40 plan: Whoever said that folks tend to get more conservative as they get older was full of shit. What they really mean is that people lose motivation in the things they used to love, and that's one way of making excuses for giving up on yourself. Security, right? Well, some of that is okay. Having a family necessarily means that you have to live less selfishly. But my mom sacrificed too much. She put up with too much shit to make our lives comfortable and it really screwed our family up. She wasn't okay, so neither were we.
Right now, without even trying, I have enough money to easily buy a flagship Leica and a handful of their lenses, and I can't remember when I've been more miserable. At my old job, I could barely afford clothes but things were fine. Even great sometimes.
I'd very much like to re-up on poor, please. Show me where to sign.
@Aqua-Letifer Eep! That is really great. Talk about timely!
There is something priceless about a pointer that tells you you're on the right path, ie your memory of being proud of the work you did for your old boss. I'm thinking you reeaally needed this right now. So like, thanks, Universe!
Despondency and anxiety are blue-ribbon energy killers.
As probably millions are discovering right now.
Speaking of, I think a thing that also happens as people get older is the plain old diminution of energy. I'm struggling with that like mad right now. Everything is an effort, that shouldn't be. Sometimes I watch other people bustling around living their lives, and I feel like I'm on the outside of the candy store, looking in.
Best good wishes that this offer pans out for you, Aqua. Hugs.
Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka
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Excellent news, but it’s not an either-or thing. What you go for is the satisfaction AND the money. It’s out there. Find the industry that pays top dollar for what you have to offer.
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Excellent news, but it’s not an either-or thing. What you go for is the satisfaction AND the money. It’s out there. Find the industry that pays top dollar for what you have to offer.
@Mik said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Excellent news, but it’s not an either-or thing. What you go for is the satisfaction AND the money. It’s out there. Find the industry that pays top dollar for what you have to offer.
Yeah, I know that's true. And I've got a plan for it—basically how to find what works and what doesn't. I'm also not going to be destitute or anything. Just gotta readjust some.
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@Aqua-Letifer Eep! That is really great. Talk about timely!
There is something priceless about a pointer that tells you you're on the right path, ie your memory of being proud of the work you did for your old boss. I'm thinking you reeaally needed this right now. So like, thanks, Universe!
Despondency and anxiety are blue-ribbon energy killers.
As probably millions are discovering right now.
Speaking of, I think a thing that also happens as people get older is the plain old diminution of energy. I'm struggling with that like mad right now. Everything is an effort, that shouldn't be. Sometimes I watch other people bustling around living their lives, and I feel like I'm on the outside of the candy store, looking in.
Best good wishes that this offer pans out for you, Aqua. Hugs.
@Catseye3 said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Speaking of, I think a thing that also happens as people get older is the plain old diminution of energy. I'm struggling with that like mad right now. Everything is an effort, that shouldn't be. Sometimes I watch other people bustling around living their lives, and I feel like I'm on the outside of the candy store, looking in.
Best good wishes that this offer pans out for you, Aqua. Hugs.Thanks, Cats. If it helps—it certainly helped me—maybe stop trying?
Really though. Just let yourself be and have fun for awhile instead. "Do you" as the kids say. The motivation comes back after you stop being so hard on yourself. -
@Catseye3 said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Speaking of, I think a thing that also happens as people get older is the plain old diminution of energy. I'm struggling with that like mad right now. Everything is an effort, that shouldn't be. Sometimes I watch other people bustling around living their lives, and I feel like I'm on the outside of the candy store, looking in.
Best good wishes that this offer pans out for you, Aqua. Hugs.Thanks, Cats. If it helps—it certainly helped me—maybe stop trying?
Really though. Just let yourself be and have fun for awhile instead. "Do you" as the kids say. The motivation comes back after you stop being so hard on yourself.@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
Thanks, Cats. If it helps—it certainly helped me—maybe stop trying? Really though. Just let yourself be and have fun for awhile instead. "Do you" as the kids say. The motivation comes back after you stop being so hard on yourself.
Yeah, maybe . . . Something to think about.
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Good luck Aqua!
However, I have always say that luck is opportunity meeting skill.
And I think that you have both!!!!!!
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@George-K said in I think I just tanked an interview:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
My wife knows full well how weird I am.
Of course she does. If she were in her right mind, she wouldn't have married you without knowing that!
She's part of our D&D group. She can hang.
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
She's part of our D&D group. She can hang.
Always thought there should have be a story in Big Bang Theory about one finding a spouse from one's D&D group.
Good luck with your job situation.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
She's part of our D&D group. She can hang.
Always thought there should have be a story in Big Bang Theory about one finding a spouse from one's D&D group.
Good luck with your job situation.
@Axtremus said in I think I just tanked an interview:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I think I just tanked an interview:
She's part of our D&D group. She can hang.
Always thought there should have be a story in Big Bang Theory about one finding a spouse from one's D&D group.
Good luck with your job situation.
Meh, it's common enough. I can't tell you how many spouses I know who met their significant other at a con, renn faire or D&D group. Big Bang Theory is like the movie Waiting: they think they're emphasizing things when the truth is well past what's portrayed. It wasn't written for that group; it was written for a mainstream audience who's outside of it. For something more accurate, read Kitchen Confidential or watch some Dungeon Dudes.
Thanks, @Axtremus and @taiwan_girl .
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Found this, and it reminded me of your late trevails. Written by Arthur Conan Doyle in The Sign of Four. Don't know if he was referring to himself or a character in the book:
"“My mind rebels at stagnation. Give me problems, give me work, give me the most abstruse cryptogram, or the most intricate analysis, and I am in my own proper atmosphere. I can dispense with artificial stimulants. But I abhor the dull routine of existence. I crave for mental exaltation. That is why I have chosen my own particular profession, or rather created it, for I am the only one in the world.”
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Yeah, it's Holmes' quote.
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Nice update, man. I know personally how your values line up and am thrilled it leads to improved satisfaction. I have a feeling I know which employer this freelance work would be for... cool stuff.
I agree priorities change when you have a family and kid, and agree with @Mik that there’s a good balance out there. It’s One of the nice things about this country, and I know some other countries as well, that you can pursue both happiness and gainful employment.
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Nice update, man. I know personally how your values line up and am thrilled it leads to improved satisfaction. I have a feeling I know which employer this freelance work would be for... cool stuff.
I agree priorities change when you have a family and kid, and agree with @Mik that there’s a good balance out there. It’s One of the nice things about this country, and I know some other countries as well, that you can pursue both happiness and gainful employment.
@89th said in I think I just tanked an interview:
It’s One of the nice things about this country, and I know some other countries as well, that you can pursue both happiness and gainful employment.
Thanks man. (No joke, that's the only way I could make a decision about leaving Oz or not. Ultimately it came down to America being larger, so therefore, more opportunities, especially if things got bad. Which, yeah, I think 2020 qualifies.)
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This is terrific news, Aqua! Is this full time work, or would you be able to have additional contracts?
@brenda said in I think I just tanked an interview:
This is terrific news, Aqua! Is this full time work, or would you be able to have additional contracts?
As of right now, they're offering only very limited part-time work. But that might be because they're desperate and they don't want to scare me away with a bigger ask. (They went on LinkedIn specifically to find me out, and they didn't know about my employment details then. All they knew is that I currently have a full-time job.)
They might not be able to afford to pay me much right now, either. Oh and to make it more fun: they are absolutely terrible at paying freelancers. It can take them 9 months to do so. It's not entirely their fault in that it's never their intention to screw people over, but, it's definitely a problem.
Great opportunity, right?
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Make time to payment part of your contract and DO have a contract. Let me know if you need assistance with this. Do not let their cash flow problems be yours. Nice months is entirely too long.
