Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?
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My top principles are:
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Make sure my kid had something to lose if our relationship soured. That usually takes the form of some pursuit they love and your wholehearted emotional and financial support of it.
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Keep that kid busy with positive activities As is said, idle hands are the devil's playground. I know this from my free-range youth, which was great up until I started hanging around in town rather than out in the country subdivision where we lived. That's when you have to start really watching them.
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@Mik said in Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?:
My top principles are:
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Make sure my kid had something to lose if our relationship soured. That usually takes the form of some pursuit they love and your wholehearted emotional and financial support of it.
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Keep that kid busy with positive activities As is said, idle hands are the devil's playground. I know this from my free-range youth, which was great up until I started hanging around in town rather than out in the country subdivision where we lived. That's when you have to start really watching them.
Good, practical, effective.
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Of course, I can claim she turned out well and I was a great father, but the truth is she was more like her mother than I in those ways. She HATES to be in trouble. For me, it was just the cost of doing business. If you are breaking every possible rule all day every day, you're going to get nailed for some small percentage of transgressions. It never affected me emotionally at all. I was terrified she'd be more like me.
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@Mik said in Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?:
Of course, I can claim she turned out well and I was a great father, but the truth is she was more like her mother than I in those ways. She HATES to be in trouble. For me, it was just the cost of doing business. If you are breaking every possible rule all day every day, you're going to get nailed for some small percentage of transgressions. It never affected me emotionally at all. I was terrified she'd be more like me.
Shit, for me, getting in trouble was half the point sometimes. The ideal I constantly chased was to get caught doing the dumb shit in which the entire point of it was to get caught, and then get away entirely with the heavy stuff.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?:
I do.
Yes, of course.
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@Copper said in Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?:
@Aqua-Letifer said in Is shouting at children as harmful as sexual or physical abuse?:
I do.
Yes, of course.
Care to elaborate?
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I do not reject the notion that little Johnny turned out bad because his father beat him up or his mother berated him as a kid.
Other reasons also exist.