An etiquette question

[Jolly]

Never sweat the small stuff.

Answer his announcement on Facebook, congratulate him and wish him all the best, in whatever vernacular you wish. You can even lie and ask them to visit sometime so you can meet the new in-law.

[Mik]

Oh, we've already me her. She made a real mess of our family trip to the Keys in March.

[Aqua Letifer]

@Mik said in An etiquette question:

Oh, we've already me her. She made a real mess of our family trip to the Keys in March.

Is this the far left brother?

[Mik]

No, but he's leaning that direction.

[Catseye3]

@Mik said in An etiquette question:

She made a real mess of our family trip to the Keys in March.

Aha! A clue! Did your brother pick up on the fact that she did not enamor herself with y'all, and feared y'alls disapproval of his marrying her? He knew he needed to inform y'all of his marriage, but he chickened out with an FB announcement to spare himself hard times?

If that's the case, maybe let him hide, yeah? Send some quasi-perfunctory message of congratulations and let the next move be his/theirs.

If he didn't want the grief, he should understand that you don't, either.

Gawd. As a friend of mine once said, people can get into more trouble than anyone I know.

[Mik]

An interesting perspective Cats! That could very well be. Yes, he was aware of the pandemonium.

The two couples were coming back from a day at the beach and my brother and the other brother's girlfriend went into the grocery. She ran into him inside and looked aghast that he was not wearing a mask, saying had she known that she would not have come.

Then later she stated that the rest of us could get sick because we were retired, but SHE was starting a new job. Then whenever she was around the rest of us she wore a mask.

[brenda]

I would reply to your new sis-in-law's FB post with a brief 'Congrats and best wishes to both of you'.
That's all. Ten seconds of time. Done.

Who knows why he didn't contact you himself. Take the high road. You won't have any regrets later, and that's what could matter to you in the future.

[89th]

It depends on your normal FB activity. For me, I rarely comment/like anything anymore, so even if this were my brother, I wouldn't reply via Facebook. I would just call him to say I saw it on facebook and wanted to offer my congrats to them.

[Aqua Letifer]

@brenda said in An etiquette question:

I would reply to your new sis-in-law's FB post with a brief 'Congrats and best wishes to both of you'.
That's all. Ten seconds of time. Done.

Who knows why he didn't contact you himself. Take the high road. You won't have any regrets later, and that's what could matter to you in the future.

See, that's the thing. When I take the high road, it's very often that I do have regrets. For years.

I dunno what that means exactly but just putting that out there. Not saying Mik should listen to me.

[Catseye3]

@Mik said in An etiquette question:

Then later she stated that the rest of us could get sick because we were retired, but SHE was starting a new job.

Sheesh. Welcome to the family, bitch.

[Mik]

I think I will just wait for him to contact me

[brenda]

@Mik said in An etiquette question:

I think I will just wait for him to contact me

Isn't family fun?

[Jolly]

@Aqua-Letifer said in An etiquette question:

@brenda said in An etiquette question:

I would reply to your new sis-in-law's FB post with a brief 'Congrats and best wishes to both of you'.
That's all. Ten seconds of time. Done.

Who knows why he didn't contact you himself. Take the high road. You won't have any regrets later, and that's what could matter to you in the future.

See, that's the thing. When I take the high road, it's very often that I do have regrets. For years.

I dunno what that means exactly but just putting that out there. Not saying Mik should listen to me.

Nah. In the cosmic scales of life, the high road is worth more attaboys in the end.

[Catseye3]

Yes, I think so. Even if they're from you to you.