Two Roses

[Mik]

MFR's family is very big on making sure graves are tended and have fresh plantings. I didn't quite get it early on. I do now.

Someone either remembered that child or was touched, as you were, by the site.

[taiwan_girl]

@jolly, you should be a writer.

Death rituals are interesting in different cultures and places

[Horace]

@taiwan_girl said in Two Roses:

@jolly, you should be a writer.

Those stories should be narrated by Sam Elliott, and used for prologues or epilogues in Western movies.

[jon-nyc]

@Jolly

A death of a child is uncommon today, not so back then.

When I was reading all my presidential bios I was struck by how common it was for these future presidents to lose a child. And for the most part they were well off.

[kluurs]

@taiwan_girl said in Two Roses:

@jolly, you should be a writer.

It is a gift of many from the South. Larry's a good teller of tales as well. A lot of learning occurs listening to those tales.

[George K]

@jon-nyc said in Two Roses:

When I was reading all my presidential bios I was struck by how common it was for these future presidents to lose a child. And for the most part they were well off.

Infant mortality was quite common.

Look at Mahler and how many siblings he lost.

[Horace]

The emotional impact wasn't the same as it is now, because almost everybody around you went through it too.

[George K]

@Horace said in Two Roses:

The emotional impact wasn't the same as it is now, because almost everybody around you went through it too.

Good point. It was almost expected, though I'm not sure if I agree with the emotional impact.

[brenda]

In some areas, children were not named until age two. I don't know that it took away the sting or reduced the pain, but they wanted to save the name for another chance to use it.

[Jolly]

@taiwan_girl said in Two Roses:

@jolly, you should be a writer.

Death rituals are interesting in different cultures and places

No ma'am, I couldn't make a scab on a good cow's ass.

[89th]

@taiwan_girl said in Two Roses:

@jolly, you should be a writer.

One of my very earliest memories of this forum was in 2005 and reading the prose by @Jolly and others.

@Jolly i wonder if it was a grave for twins?

Also, even in the northern Virginia area, there are many really really really really old graves, that are worn away because they were installed “flat” (parallel) with the earth.

I remember an old stat that said 1 in 2 babies would die in the 1800s? Something like that.

[89th]

@kluurs said in Two Roses:

@taiwan_girl said in Two Roses:

@jolly, you should be a writer.

It is a gift of many from the South. Larry's a good teller of tales as well. A lot of learning occurs listening to those tales.

Agreed

[taiwan_girl]

@brenda said in Two Roses:

In some areas, children were not named until age two. I don't know that it took away the sting or reduced the pain, but they wanted to save the name for another chance to use it.

In Taiwan (and many other Asian countries), there is a bigger celebration when the baby turns one year old rather than when it is born.

I always think that it goes back to when many babies dies very young. If they made it to age one, there was a better chance they would live.