Mannerly

[Aqua Letifer]

Etiquette rules only exist to create an environment where everyone feels comfortable and welcome. That's it, that's all they're intended to do. If a rule doesn't fulfill this requirement, then it's no good to anyone and should be ignored.

I'd say most of these are worth keeping, though.

[Doctor Phibes]

@aqua-letifer said in Mannerly:

Etiquette rules only exist to create an environment where everyone feels comfortable and welcome.

I can tell you've never been to England.

[Catseye3]

Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe once said, "A guest is a jewel on the cushion of hospitality."

[Axtremus]

@catseye3 said in Mannerly:

Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe once said, "A guest is a jewel on the cushion of hospitality."

Nonsense. A guest is someone invited or otherwise allowed on the promise on civil terms by the those authorized to decide who gets to be on the premise, typically excluding those providing goods and/or services to the establishment on the premise.

[Catseye3]

@axtremus said in Mannerly:

Nonsense. A guest is someone invited or otherwise allowed on the promise on civil terms by the those authorized to decide who gets to be on the premise, typically excluding those providing goods and/or services to the establishment on the premise.

Yeah, being a guest under those conditions would be a really big whoop. "Did you have a good weekend?" "Sure. I was allowed on the premises of some friends, and I had a really . . . lukewarm time."

[Copper]

Knowing all of this is critical: https://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-19th-Manners/dp/0062439251/ref=sr_1_3?crid=OPF2GRFNFU69&dchild=1&keywords=etiquette+book+emily+post&qid=1628344270&sprefix=etiquette+book+emily+%2Caps%2C204&sr=8-3

Whether or not you follow it is another matter.

For flight lessons, if you are 15 minutes early, you are 15 minutes late.

[George K]

@copper said in Mannerly:

For flight lessons, if you are 15 minutes early, you are 15 minutes late.

I worked with a surgeon who insisted that a 7:30 case meant the knife hits the skin at 7:30. Woe to the resident who didn't have the patient on the table, asleep, prepped and draped in time for a 7:30 incision.

"Good afternoon!" he would say to the resident. "I got our patient all ready. Why don't you go make some rounds while I relieve this man of his gallbladder."

[Doctor Phibes]

@catseye3 said in Mannerly:

Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe once said, "A guest is a jewel on the cushion of hospitality."

A pain in the arse?

[jon-nyc]

@george-k said in Mannerly:

We usually do Thanksgiving buffet-style. A while ago, we had some guests for TG. One of them loaded his plate with food, and was done eating before everyone was even seated.

My god, was he 12?

[Horace]

Mortifying.

[George K]

@jon-nyc said in Mannerly:

@george-k said in Mannerly:

We usually do Thanksgiving buffet-style. A while ago, we had some guests for TG. One of them loaded his plate with food, and was done eating before everyone was even seated.

My god, was he 12?

[Aqua Letifer]

@axtremus said in Mannerly:

@catseye3 said in Mannerly:

Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe once said, "A guest is a jewel on the cushion of hospitality."

Nonsense. A guest is someone invited or otherwise allowed on the promise on civil terms by the those authorized to decide who gets to be on the premise, typically excluding those providing goods and/or services to the establishment on the premise.

You know I started reading this post and then, I just don't know what happened I blacked out or something. What year is it, is COVID still a thing?