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That’s excellent, Horace!

Up at 5am and my only resistance training was lifting dishes emptying the dishwasher. Now I’m un-decorating the Christmas tree. Attempting (as a resolution) to go back to cutting out added sugar, but I just made “all the leftover different kinds of chocolate bits in the baking cabinet” cookie bars…

That’s awful.

@Nunatax said in Is TNCR dying?:

@jodi said in Is TNCR dying?:

I wonder how many still check in but don’t post. I go through phases of not posting, but I usually check in regularly to see what’s up.

Same here

I wonder how many still check in but don’t post. I go through phases of not posting, but I usually check in regularly to see what’s up.

But that is a very beautifully written post.

I had a good friend who had that. It is a difficult way to go. And equally traumatic for the caregiver(s) left behind.

I used to watch skating religiously. Back in the Nancy Kerrigan/Tonya Harding days. Not anymore.

He’s amazing.

That’s pretty awesome.

He is sick. I know the people in power are hardly EVER the good/honest /noble people we want and need them to be, but I wish he could at least outwardly try to honor the position he has been elected to. It’s so disgraceful. Makes me really unhappy.

(Jon’s link)
No words. Well a few, but they are bad and what’s the point. What an embarrassing piece of **** that man is.

I like self checkout too. But only when I’m buying a small number of items.

Lol, Jon.

@blondie said in 89th - because of you…:

I counted shoes in bins at the front door. I’m under 45 . I ditched 2 pairs of sad slippers, and some boots.

Husband has to be happy too, or you are pretty much ******.

@xenon said in Marriage advice:

Lots of good advice in this thread, but change is hard. I've worked my wife to the point of recognizing that it's better if every item in the house has a specific place to live, and not only space for itself, but breathing space so that it can actually be found and used.

This is the key for me. I am a clear plastic storage box - label and categorize - and every shelf or set of shelves has an activity category - camping, auto, tools, paint supplies, etc. Stuff HAS to be in the area it goes in, otherwise I will never find it again. I think the organizing thing is probably related to an OCD (but also ADHD) thing in my personality. I tend to get everything out at once, work on multiple projects, and then I have a meltdown moment and spend a day getting everything tucked back into the assigned spots so I can start back in on the projects with less anxiety.

Taking the cloth napkins I don’t use to the goodwill so I can actually open the drawer and find the ones I do. Nice to be able to shut the drawer without having to force them back in there. Truly, that thread has had me in cleaning mode these last couple of days, lol.

@89th said in Marriage advice:
this situation it's more about how to address a clutter issue that she creates and has plenty of time during the day to address if it weren't for the distractions.

I do think you need to tell her the clutter is stressing you out, but you have to figure out how to do it without the judgement (I’m stressed by the clutter and it’s your fault). Based on your words above - I get extremely irritated when Steve occasionally comments on the amount of time I spend doing (whatever it is I’m doing to decompress) if I think he’s making a judgement comment on my choices and thinks I should be doing something else. With little kids you really do not feel like any of your time is your own. So even if you think she’s got time, she may not feel like it. Her idea of how much time she has may never match yours, and that may always cause you stress.