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"I won't make fun of you...."

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  • M Mik
    12 Jan 2021, 00:19

    A good tongue lashing should suffice to put said boss in their place. Stupid remarks should not be the stuff of lawsuits.

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    Catseye3
    wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 14:25 last edited by Catseye3 1 Dec 2021, 14:28
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    @mik said in "I won't make fun of you....":

    Stupid remarks should not be the stuff of lawsuits.

    I'm with Mik and also Ax on this. We really can't go crying to the system every time our feelings get hurt.

    It's actually kind of snowflakey.

    Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

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    • J Jolly
      12 Jan 2021, 13:59

      If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

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      Loki
      wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 14:41 last edited by
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      @jolly said in "I won't make fun of you....":

      If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

      I believe a pattern of behavior needs to be shown in many types of cases.

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        Doctor Phibes
        wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 14:46 last edited by
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        If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

        I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

        The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

        I was only joking

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        • D Doctor Phibes
          12 Jan 2021, 14:46

          If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

          I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

          The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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          Loki
          wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 16:35 last edited by
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          @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

          If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

          I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

          The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

          Perfect.

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          • D Doctor Phibes
            12 Jan 2021, 14:46

            If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

            I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

            The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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            Catseye3
            wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 16:38 last edited by
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            @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

            I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

            Yeah, okay. Then as an end note, go upside his head with a stapler.

            Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

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            • D Doctor Phibes
              12 Jan 2021, 14:46

              If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

              I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

              The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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              Horace
              wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 16:47 last edited by
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              @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

              The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

              I think I had an online corporate training program on this issue that suggested that very response. While also making it clear that you can always go to HR if you'd like to.

              Education is extremely important.

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                Aqua Letifer
                wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 16:53 last edited by
                #29

                Set his car on fire?

                Please love yourself.

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                • A Aqua Letifer
                  12 Jan 2021, 16:53

                  Set his car on fire?

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                  Doctor Phibes
                  wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:28 last edited by
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                  @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                  Set his car on fire?

                  Empty, or with him in it?

                  I was only joking

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                  • D Doctor Phibes
                    12 Jan 2021, 17:28

                    @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                    Set his car on fire?

                    Empty, or with him in it?

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                    George K
                    wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:29 last edited by
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                    @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                    @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                    Set his car on fire?

                    Empty, or with him in it?

                    Is that an incitement to violence?

                    "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                    The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                      Doctor Phibes
                      wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:31 last edited by
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                      No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

                      I was only joking

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                      • D Doctor Phibes
                        12 Jan 2021, 17:31

                        No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

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                        Aqua Letifer
                        wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:39 last edited by
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                        @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                        No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

                        I do believe I phrased my response in the form of a question, condoning neither implicitly nor explicitly an incitement to violence, destruction of property, or any other legal infraction generally.

                        Please love yourself.

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                          Doctor Phibes
                          wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:44 last edited by
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                          I shall of course advise the FBI accordingly.

                          I was only joking

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                          • A Aqua Letifer
                            12 Jan 2021, 16:53

                            Set his car on fire?

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                            Mik
                            wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:45 last edited by
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                            @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                            Set his car on fire?

                            I'm in.

                            I prefer the direct approach.

                            “I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill

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                              Doctor Phibes
                              wrote on 12 Jan 2021, 17:46 last edited by
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                              The trap closes.

                              I was only joking

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                                Kincaid
                                wrote on 13 Jan 2021, 04:24 last edited by
                                #37

                                On a related note, I'm sure y'all be glad to know all my hair came back. I think it was stress. A HELOC to pay off some usurious student loan rates and some cortisone shots skillfully placed did the trick.

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