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"I won't make fun of you...."

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  • JollyJ Offline
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    Jolly
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    #22

    If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

    “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

    Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

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    • MikM Mik

      A good tongue lashing should suffice to put said boss in their place. Stupid remarks should not be the stuff of lawsuits.

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      #23

      @mik said in "I won't make fun of you....":

      Stupid remarks should not be the stuff of lawsuits.

      I'm with Mik and also Ax on this. We really can't go crying to the system every time our feelings get hurt.

      It's actually kind of snowflakey.

      Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

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      • JollyJ Jolly

        If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

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        Loki
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        #24

        @jolly said in "I won't make fun of you....":

        If I was a lawyer, I wouldn't hang my hat on this one. Can be interpreted more than one way and demonstrable harm would be hard to prove.

        I believe a pattern of behavior needs to be shown in many types of cases.

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        • Doctor PhibesD Offline
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          #25

          If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

          I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

          The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

          I was only joking

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          • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

            If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

            I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

            The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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            @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

            If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

            I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

            The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

            Perfect.

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            • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

              If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

              I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

              The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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              Catseye3
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              @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

              I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

              Yeah, okay. Then as an end note, go upside his head with a stapler.

              Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

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              • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

                If you're going through chemotherapy, the last thing you need is more stress, such as looking for a new job, or getting into an HR-related battle.

                I wouldn't say this is snowflakey - she is going through a ton of shit already. A comment like that wouldn't bother me, but I'm losing my hair already. For some people it would be very upsetting.

                The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

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                #28

                @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                The way I would handle it is I'd ask for a meeting with the person who made the comment, and I would point out to them how hurtful the remark was - "I don't know if you realised, but what you said was very hurtful" type of approach. If it re-occurs, then he hasn't got the 'I was only joking' excuse.

                I think I had an online corporate training program on this issue that suggested that very response. While also making it clear that you can always go to HR if you'd like to.

                Education is extremely important.

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                  Aqua Letifer
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                  #29

                  Set his car on fire?

                  Please love yourself.

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                  • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                    Set his car on fire?

                    Doctor PhibesD Offline
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                    Doctor Phibes
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                    @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                    Set his car on fire?

                    Empty, or with him in it?

                    I was only joking

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                    • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

                      @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                      Set his car on fire?

                      Empty, or with him in it?

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                      @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                      @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                      Set his car on fire?

                      Empty, or with him in it?

                      Is that an incitement to violence?

                      "Now look here, you Baltic gas passer... " - Mik, 6/14/08

                      The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                      • Doctor PhibesD Offline
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                        Doctor Phibes
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                        #32

                        No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

                        I was only joking

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                        • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

                          No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

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                          Aqua Letifer
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                          @doctor-phibes said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                          No, it was a trap. If he said 'with him in it', I was going to report Aqua to the FBI.

                          I do believe I phrased my response in the form of a question, condoning neither implicitly nor explicitly an incitement to violence, destruction of property, or any other legal infraction generally.

                          Please love yourself.

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                            Doctor Phibes
                            wrote on last edited by
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                            I shall of course advise the FBI accordingly.

                            I was only joking

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                            • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                              Set his car on fire?

                              MikM Offline
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                              wrote on last edited by
                              #35

                              @aqua-letifer said in "I won't make fun of you....":

                              Set his car on fire?

                              I'm in.

                              I prefer the direct approach.

                              “I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill

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                              • Doctor PhibesD Offline
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                                Doctor Phibes
                                wrote on last edited by
                                #36

                                The trap closes.

                                I was only joking

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                                  Kincaid
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                                  On a related note, I'm sure y'all be glad to know all my hair came back. I think it was stress. A HELOC to pay off some usurious student loan rates and some cortisone shots skillfully placed did the trick.

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