Respect my wishes!
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The memorial is for the family/friends sake… Not the deceased.
The deceased probably made that request pro-forma, not wanting to be a burden on her loved ones, but not considering whether the memorial might be for the benefit of the survivors…
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Saying you don't want any fuss is quite a common thing to say, but as LD says this isn't for her benefit, it's for the people left behind.
Missing my mother's funeral in 2020 due to the Covid lockdown still really bothers me 6 years later.
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There’s no reason friends can’t organize informally to celebrate a person’s life. I went to an impromptu culdesac barbecue where we ended up around a fire pit sharing great memories of a neighbor. He didn’t have a funeral. He didn’t want it. I respect that.
None of my elders wanted funerals. Their choice. Our family was so tiny we just went to their favourite restaurants after we put the urns in the ground. That seems a tradition with us. -
Yeah, I’m with Blondie. Get together, tell funny stories, enjoy her memory. Nothing disrespectful about that. I I think what she wanted to avoid was a traditional sobfest. I can relate to that. I’m leaning more and more towards being buried with a newly planted tree to fertilize it. Have a picnic on that spot, drink whatever is left of my wine cellar and laugh yourselves silly. Then Uber home. You won’t be fit to drive and designated drivers are prohibited at this event.
"You cannot subsidize irresponsibility and expect people to become more responsible." — Thomas Sowell
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Yeah, I’m with Blondie. Get together, tell funny stories, enjoy her memory. Nothing disrespectful about that. I I think what she wanted to avoid was a traditional sobfest. I can relate to that. I’m leaning more and more towards being buried with a newly planted tree to fertilize it. Have a picnic on that spot, drink whatever is left of my wine cellar and laugh yourselves silly. Then Uber home. You won’t be fit to drive and designated drivers are prohibited at this event.
I’m leaning more and more towards being buried with a newly planted tree to fertilize it. Have a picnic on that spot, drink whatever is left of my wine cellar and laugh yourselves silly.
We could probably do that before you were killed.
I was only joking
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Yeah, I’m with Blondie. Get together, tell funny stories, enjoy her memory. Nothing disrespectful about that. I I think what she wanted to avoid was a traditional sobfest. I can relate to that. I’m leaning more and more towards being buried with a newly planted tree to fertilize it. Have a picnic on that spot, drink whatever is left of my wine cellar and laugh yourselves silly. Then Uber home. You won’t be fit to drive and designated drivers are prohibited at this event.
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I’m leaning more and more towards being buried with a newly planted tree to fertilize it. Have a picnic on that spot, drink whatever is left of my wine cellar and laugh yourselves silly.
We could probably do that before you were killed.
You got a new tree maybe?
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Blondie and Mik have the right idea. I would add there should be zero pressure on the deceased’s family members to get involved or contribute.
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