An interesting question
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I can see a non-boomer therapist asking this question. I disagree with her in many ways. I'm pretty private about health issues and I detest being around a group of people close to my age and that's ALL THEY FUCKING TALK ABOUT!!! But my immediate family is always in the know about anything going on.
In my view she advocates dumping your problems on someone else. I don't see the point in burdening others with things they can't do anything but worry about. But oversharing seems to be a hallmark of current times.
I do think her assessment of the situation is pretty myopic. She's young enough that she's likely never had any serious health issues. I also think her willingness to call people out on it is arrogant, and quite unbecoming a therapist. One might think she'd have more empathy for differing points of view.
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Mrs. Phibes talked me out of posting photos of my colonoscopy on TNCR as a joke.
If I ever have major surgery, you guys are in for a treat.
It's better to give than to receive. I've got photos of that, too, if you're interested.
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Mrs. Phibes talked me out of posting photos of my colonoscopy on TNCR as a joke.
If I ever have major surgery, you guys are in for a treat.
It's better to give than to receive. I've got photos of that, too, if you're interested.
Tell me why your post just conjured the famous picture of Alex undergoing aversion therapy in A Clockwork Orange?
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Most likely the kid doesn’t know about the medical problem because they talk 1-2 times a month.
If they talk more often than that, the kid probably doesn’t know about the problem because they either didn’t listen, or actively ignored the issue. Mom mentions Dad’s having trouble sleeping for months… Then his moments of weakness, then even mentions cardiologist visit and the kid chooses to ignore it…
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this is a therapist? a tik tok influencer?
this is a therapist
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@Mik .. She’s typical of her generation of therapists (being mother of one). She’s likely had little exposure with those of “The Silent Generation”. If so, she’d have a little empathy (and maybe some respect) for how little information we boomers got of our own parents’ and grandparents’ health matters. This forms part of who we are and how we communicate our emotions. We learned growing up that “I didn’t mean to worry you”, or “We wanted to know for sure before we told you”, was often said for a reason .. a reason we boomers accepted and didn’t question. We accepted our elders wisdom and rationale for what they shared/didn’t, and I believe we had less anxiety than young ones today.
Case in point: My mom said little to nothing to my brother of dad’s last 24 hrs in hospital, up to and including dad’s death. Why? Little brother, after years of trying, finally had his interview for a corporate job at the place he worked. That interview happened the morning dad died. I understood. My brother understood too, later, after he was told. -
I’m a GenXer cut from WASP cloth and would never talk to a therapist about anything unless she were cute.
@jon-nyc said in An interesting question:
I’m a GenXer cut from WASP cloth and would never talk to a therapist about anything unless she were cute.
I’m a boomer. I wouldn’t waste good money on “therapy” .. & even if he was cute, 50, and served assorted teas and snacks. Heck, funeral homes serve up empathy and snacks for free after services. And I’m at an age where I’m going to these services regularly.
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@Mik .. She’s typical of her generation of therapists (being mother of one). She’s likely had little exposure with those of “The Silent Generation”. If so, she’d have a little empathy (and maybe some respect) for how little information we boomers got of our own parents’ and grandparents’ health matters. This forms part of who we are and how we communicate our emotions. We learned growing up that “I didn’t mean to worry you”, or “We wanted to know for sure before we told you”, was often said for a reason .. a reason we boomers accepted and didn’t question. We accepted our elders wisdom and rationale for what they shared/didn’t, and I believe we had less anxiety than young ones today.
Case in point: My mom said little to nothing to my brother of dad’s last 24 hrs in hospital, up to and including dad’s death. Why? Little brother, after years of trying, finally had his interview for a corporate job at the place he worked. That interview happened the morning dad died. I understood. My brother understood too, later, after he was told.@blondie said in An interesting question:
@Mik .. She’s typical of her generation of therapists (being mother of one). She’s likely had little exposure with those of “The Silent Generation”. If so, she’d have a little empathy (and maybe some respect) for how little information we boomers got of our own parents’ and grandparents’ health matters. This forms part of who we are and how we communicate our emotions. We learned growing up that “I didn’t mean to worry you”, or “We wanted to know for sure before we told you”, was often said for a reason .. a reason we boomers accepted and didn’t question. We accepted our elders wisdom and rationale for what they shared/didn’t, and I believe we had less anxiety than young ones today.
Case in point: My mom said little to nothing to my brother of dad’s last 24 hrs in hospital, up to and including dad’s death. Why? Little brother, after years of trying, finally had his interview for a corporate job at the place he worked. That interview happened the morning dad died. I understood. My brother understood too, later, after he was told.Indeed. Why burden someone in the name of promptness.
My father always referred to worrying about things like test results and such as borrowing trouble.
