The Pea Speaks
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A little bit of East vs. West concerning relationships...How much age difference is too much age difference? In the West, >20 years generates an extremely high divorce rate.
Link to videoSome of this is in my wife's family. Her uncle is 79 and his Filipina wife is in her mid-50's. They've been married over 20 years and seem to do just fine.
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Well, I am sure that President Trump and his wife married for love.
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Well, I am sure that President Trump and his wife married for love.
@taiwan_girl said in The Pea Speaks:
Well, I am sure that President Trump and his wife married for love.
TDS, much?
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@taiwan_girl said in The Pea Speaks:
Well, I am sure that President Trump and his wife married for love.
TDS, much?
@Jolly said in The Pea Speaks:
@taiwan_girl said in The Pea Speaks:
Well, I am sure that President Trump and his wife married for love.
TDS, much?
No, I dont deify President Trump at all. 555
But I do think that their marriage was "transactional", and it seems to work for them, so you are correct - I probably should not have brought it up.
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There's no strict dividing line between "love" and "transactional" as categories of romantic relationships. It's a continuum at best, but even a continuum would imply that as one decreases, the other increases, and vice versa. Which is not really the case. Actually, women are inclined, absent insane cultural programming, towards successful men who can provide material comforts. That inclination turns to "love" easily.
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What I've seen in my extended immigrant family is that successful couples see their job as being pillars of family. Be that supporting with money, guidance, logistics - whatever. As long as the age gap isn't seen as a barrier to supporting the family - it's fine.
That's job number one. That shared sense of purpose creates a loving bond between successful couples. It's much less about shared interests or passion. Incidentally it's also much more normal for men and women to have super deep friendships outside of their spouse.
