I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review
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What pissed me off with this review is:
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the idea that the attentive and involved father is a fantasy… Yes, it’s not shown on many TV shows. Dad’s are normally portrayed as some bumbling fool more interested in beer than their kids. (Homer Simpson, Peter Griffin, etc…) More shoes need to show active and engaged dads. Maybe it will shame more parents in being active.
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As Jolly noted, kids can engage in chores. And it can be fun for them. Even in small (and ultimately more time consuming ways for me), it is worth it.
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10 minutes of playtime?
I bet this broad is a single mom.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
How 'bout just turn the tube off?
About as reasonable as "no internet until you're 18."
Bluey's actually great for us. We watch for 10 minutes and far more often than not, she decides to turn it off and we spend the next 15 to 90 playing the game that was in the show. Keepy uppy, musical statues, featherwand, octopus, mountains, shops and crazy pillow are part of the regular rotation. I'm personally more than okay with that.
TV, streaming, internet usage...All should be limited. The older the child, the more permissive the parent can be. I still think Ax's porn should be banned and I think social media should be occasionally monitored, even for a teenager.
I also think children should have structured and unstructured play time. I think that kids should work...First with their parents and as they grow up, with a set list of chores.
Speaking of work, I think kids need to learn skills. How to paint, simple framing, drywall repair, laying tile or flooring, maybe a little plumbing. Other skills like a bit of horticulture or maybe some rudimentary mechanical work.
I think kids need to be encouraged in music and in athletics. Some will pick one path or the other, some neither and some both. I think kids should have a hand in family finances, understanding where money comes from, how the family budgets, when credit should be used and a bit of investing exposure.
I think kids should know their way around the kitchen. By the time they are a teenager, they should cook one meal a week for the family.
And yes, I think children should go to church. With their parents. I think that the structure of church is beneficial for children, both spiritually and morally. As they grow up, they can decide their own religious questions.
In short, by the time a baby grows into an 18 year-old, I think a parent has done a good job if you've got a kid that knows they're loved, has a realistic view of work, play and life and some skills to cope with their new world of independence.
@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
TV, streaming, internet usage...All should be limited. The older the child, the more permissive the parent can be. I still think Ax's porn should be banned and I think social media should be occasionally monitored, even for a teenager.
I also think children should have structured and unstructured play time. I think that kids should work...First with their parents and as they grow up, with a set list of chores.
Speaking of work, I think kids need to learn skills. How to paint, simple framing, drywall repair, laying tile or flooring, maybe a little plumbing. Other skills like a bit of horticulture or maybe some rudimentary mechanical work.
I think kids need to be encouraged in music and in athletics. Some will pick one path or the other, some neither and some both. I think kids should have a hand in family finances, understanding where money comes from, how the family budgets, when credit should be used and a bit of investing exposure.
I think kids should know their way around the kitchen. By the time they are a teenager, they should cook one meal a week for the family.
And yes, I think children should go to church. With their parents. I think that the structure of church is beneficial for children, both spiritually and morally. As they grow up, they can decide their own religious questions.
In short, by the time a baby grows into an 18 year-old, I think a parent has done a good job if you've got a kid that knows they're loved, has a realistic view of work, play and life and some skills to cope with their new world of independence.
I don't disagree with any of that. In fact, small details aside that's exactly our plan to follow also.
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And now, for some controversy...
I'm a firm believer in traditional families. I think the father is the head of the household. I believe that he is the ultimate disciplinarian. I believe that the mother is the major nurturing component in the home. That's not to say that things don't overlap. They do. Each according to his strengths.
I know how hard it is in today's economy, but I think we'd have more stable children, if moms were able to not work or could just work part-time, when they're children are pre-school age.
I think that grandparents are very important. Especially grandparents who are still together in loving and stable marriages. Lots if wisdom there and it's their job to pass it on. I still occasionally call up an old saying or story my grandparents told me or I remember fun times and work times.
It doesn't take a village to raise a child. It takes a family.
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And now, for some controversy...
I'm a firm believer in traditional families. I think the father is the head of the household. I believe that he is the ultimate disciplinarian. I believe that the mother is the major nurturing component in the home. That's not to say that things don't overlap. They do. Each according to his strengths.
I know how hard it is in today's economy, but I think we'd have more stable children, if moms were able to not work or could just work part-time, when they're children are pre-school age.
I think that grandparents are very important. Especially grandparents who are still together in loving and stable marriages. Lots if wisdom there and it's their job to pass it on. I still occasionally call up an old saying or story my grandparents told me or I remember fun times and work times.
It doesn't take a village to raise a child. It takes a family.
@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
And now, for some controversy...
I'm a firm believer in traditional families. I think the father is the head of the household. I believe that he is the ultimate disciplinarian. I believe that the mother is the major nurturing component in the home. That's not to say that things don't overlap. They do. Each according to his strengths.
I'm not really into that but I've no problem with folks who run their families that way. I just don't is all.
I think that unless you're a passive jackass, of which there are too many, one's parenting is in large part a reaction to your own life experiences. I'm no different.
I've seen too much bitterness as a result of covert contracts, unilateral decisions and various other forms of lack of communication. That's not something I want to fuck around with, so I refuse to risk it. I'd rather things be figured out among everyone.
I know how hard it is in today's economy, but I think we'd have more stable children, if moms were able to not work or could just work part-time, when they're children are pre-school age.
All good for those who can swing it and want to do it that way.
I think that grandparents are very important. Especially grandparents who are still together in loving and stable marriages. Lots if wisdom there and it's their job to pass it on.
Sounds great on paper.
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@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
And now, for some controversy...
I'm a firm believer in traditional families. I think the father is the head of the household. I believe that he is the ultimate disciplinarian. I believe that the mother is the major nurturing component in the home. That's not to say that things don't overlap. They do. Each according to his strengths.
I'm not really into that but I've no problem with folks who run their families that way. I just don't is all.
I think that unless you're a passive jackass, of which there are too many, one's parenting is in large part a reaction to your own life experiences. I'm no different.
I've seen too much bitterness as a result of covert contracts, unilateral decisions and various other forms of lack of communication. That's not something I want to fuck around with, so I refuse to risk it. I'd rather things be figured out among everyone.
I know how hard it is in today's economy, but I think we'd have more stable children, if moms were able to not work or could just work part-time, when they're children are pre-school age.
All good for those who can swing it and want to do it that way.
I think that grandparents are very important. Especially grandparents who are still together in loving and stable marriages. Lots if wisdom there and it's their job to pass it on.
Sounds great on paper.
@Aqua-Letifer said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
Sounds great on paper.
Works great in real life, too. My wife and I both had grandparents on both sides when we were little. My oldest even had two of his great-grandmothers, until he was five or so.
My wife's parents are still alive and at home (he's 86, she's 83). They still occasionally baby-sit my daughter's five year-old. And enjoy it immensely.
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@Aqua-Letifer said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
Sounds great on paper.
Works great in real life, too. My wife and I both had grandparents on both sides when we were little. My oldest even had two of his great-grandmothers, until he was five or so.
My wife's parents are still alive and at home (he's 86, she's 83). They still occasionally baby-sit my daughter's five year-old. And enjoy it immensely.
@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
@Aqua-Letifer said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
Sounds great on paper.
Works great in real life, too.
My mom only plays with our daughter under certain conditions. She doesn't want a granddaughter, she wants an animatronic doll and she gets pissed when the doll doesn't do what she wants it to do. She loves to parade my daughter around the neighborhood and play Grandmother but in the house, she scoffs at the games my daughter likes to play and refuses to participate.
Also, there's this funny little joke my mom likes to tell that's just so hilarious. She likes to joke that she's going to kidnap our daughter because she's just so cute and she's going to run away with her! Ha ha, funny funny! When are you going to put her on a plane to come stay with us for a week? Just know that when you do we might not send her back ah ha ha!
She cornered my wife one day when we were down there — waited for me to go to the store — and tried to get her to sign a form giving them temporary custody. "In case you know they had to take her to the hospital or something." Ah ha ha!
My mom was a social worker all her life. She damn well knows what that form allows them to do and how unnecessary it is in the situation she provided.
My dad's good with kids. He can hang and he's a very good sport about playing with her. But he's beyond fucking whipped. He denies any of this is happening until that becomes ridiculous to do so and then he defends it.
I won't get into my wife's mom as that's a whole other story of fun and games. Suffice to say that my daughter's grandparents are absolute fucking liabilities.
But yes we make sure my daughter gets time with them because grandparents are important, and she's too young to understand how fucked any of this is. We just supervise everything.
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Crying shame.
Never had any of those problems. The only problem I had was a little favoritism, and that had to do with which set of grandparents kept which grandchild the most. My in-laws kept my daughter more, my mom and dad kept my son. As in from the time they were seven or eight weeks old.
Not saying they didn't love and help either child. Shucks, the only time in my life my dad ever lied to me, was when the wife and I took off on a little weekend trip, and he had to take my teenage daughter to the ER for some minor scrapes and bruising...He told me she fell through a rotten porch board at her
friend's home.Found out years later, she was car surfing.
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Crying shame.
Never had any of those problems. The only problem I had was a little favoritism, and that had to do with which set of grandparents kept which grandchild the most. My in-laws kept my daughter more, my mom and dad kept my son. As in from the time they were seven or eight weeks old.
Not saying they didn't love and help either child. Shucks, the only time in my life my dad ever lied to me, was when the wife and I took off on a little weekend trip, and he had to take my teenage daughter to the ER for some minor scrapes and bruising...He told me she fell through a rotten porch board at her
friend's home.Found out years later, she was car surfing.
@Jolly said in I can’t wait to read Aqua’s reaction to this Bluey Review:
Crying shame.
Eh, it was harder when we were figuring these things out. It was dramatic to say the least to watch my mom interact with our daughter. It really illustrated the problems I had when I was growing up. A whole lot of things started to make a lot of sense.
My dad gets a lot out of spending time with her, though, and when on his own he's a very good guy, so we make sure they talk regularly. My mom even participates most times.
Never had any of those problems. The only problem I had was a little favoritism, and that had to do with which set of grandparents kept which grandchild the most. My in-laws kept my daughter more, my mom and dad kept my son. As in from the time they were seven or eight weeks old.
Not saying they didn't love and help either child. Shucks, the only time in my life my dad ever lied to me, was when the wife and I took off on a little weekend trip, and he had to take my teenage daughter to the ER for some minor scrapes and bruising...He told me she fell through a rotten porch board at her
friend's home.Found out years later, she was car surfing.
Classic grandparent move.
Thankfully my grandparents never had to cover for me for my shenanigans. I either got away with them or owned up.
Going to my grandmother's in town was always a chore. ...To my mom, anyway. She saw it as work I had to do. Do library errands for her, mow the lawn, take out her trash (she had a LONNNNNNG driveway), take her out to dinner.
Joke was on her, I loved it. I was given real responsibilities and my grandmother was hilarious. Sometimes I'd make up shit I had to do just to go over there. There was always a part of the lattice that needed painting or rooms to be cleared out.
