RIP Larry
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wrote on 4 Aug 2022, 03:47 last edited by
The service would have been today.
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wrote on 4 Aug 2022, 12:09 last edited by
It's no secret that Larry and I didn't get along. When things got too vitriolic, I proposed that he and I stay in our separate camps, go our separate ways. That he stay in his corner and I stay in mine. That mostly worked from then on, which I always appreciated. That's as good as it got between him and me.
Nobody can expect to get along with everybody all the time. Bette Davis observed that if nobody dislikes you, you must be a very boring person. Larry kept me from feeling like a boring person -- not a small thing.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 13:39 last edited by
(maybe a bit off topic, so apology in advance)
I thought it was kind of weird that his wife was not mentioned in the summary George posted. My first thought was that his mom and his wife did not get along. :eek
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(maybe a bit off topic, so apology in advance)
I thought it was kind of weird that his wife was not mentioned in the summary George posted. My first thought was that his mom and his wife did not get along. :eek
wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 13:40 last edited by@taiwan_girl his kids weren't mentioned either.
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@taiwan_girl his kids weren't mentioned either.
wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 13:49 last edited by@George-K Thats right. Kind of strange, but family issues/fights/secrets can be pretty strange also.
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@George-K Thats right. Kind of strange, but family issues/fights/secrets can be pretty strange also.
wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 13:55 last edited by@taiwan_girl I know that his son was...problematic. Substance abuse, run-ins with the law. HIs daughter and he became estranged years ago. Her husband was...problematic as well.
Also, no mention of his grandkids.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 14:05 last edited by
Who knows if the wife was real or part of the online-only Larry story. But I think his estrangement from his kids explains their absence in the obit.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 14:23 last edited by
From 12 years ago...
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(maybe a bit off topic, so apology in advance)
I thought it was kind of weird that his wife was not mentioned in the summary George posted. My first thought was that his mom and his wife did not get along. :eek
wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 14:30 last edited by@taiwan_girl said in RIP Larry:
(maybe a bit off topic, so apology in advance)
I thought it was kind of weird that his wife was not mentioned in the summary George posted. My first thought was that his mom and his wife did not get along. :eek
As somebody who is pretty familiar with the funeral biz, the posted obit is only as good as what the immediate family insists on. It's done at the time arrangements are made.
And folks, it's a business. Mark up on caskets is better than 300% in most cases. Formalin is cheap and the embalming process is not that complicated. Cremation is nothing more than a gas oven, lined with refractory brick, with a thermostat and a timer.
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@taiwan_girl said in RIP Larry:
(maybe a bit off topic, so apology in advance)
I thought it was kind of weird that his wife was not mentioned in the summary George posted. My first thought was that his mom and his wife did not get along. :eek
As somebody who is pretty familiar with the funeral biz, the posted obit is only as good as what the immediate family insists on. It's done at the time arrangements are made.
And folks, it's a business. Mark up on caskets is better than 300% in most cases. Formalin is cheap and the embalming process is not that complicated. Cremation is nothing more than a gas oven, lined with refractory brick, with a thermostat and a timer.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 14:50 last edited by
Here’s my take. The young lady Sarah is/was a caregiver. For Larry’s mom. And she became live-in. And part of this arrangement, extended over time, to Larry helping out her family in the Philippines. I’ve seen this scenario with caregivers and nannys here. I do worry of his mom.
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Here’s my take. The young lady Sarah is/was a caregiver. For Larry’s mom. And she became live-in. And part of this arrangement, extended over time, to Larry helping out her family in the Philippines. I’ve seen this scenario with caregivers and nannys here. I do worry of his mom.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 15:20 last edited by
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 15:23 last edited by George K 8 May 2022, 15:23
the posted obit is only as good as what the immediate family insists on
Right. So, in this case, who is "immediate family?" Obviously, his brother and mother, but not spouse?
They would take the spouse’s direction not the 90 year old mother.
That, indirectly, is my point.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 15:25 last edited by
Is it a possibility that his wife / his mother's caregiver doesn't have the paperwork to live in the US legally and hence they didn't mention her? Pure speculuation...
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 15:26 last edited by jon-nyc 8 May 2022, 15:27
I think it’s just another aspect of his life online that he made up out of whole cloth.
That too is speculation, of course. But I think her non-existence is the most parsimonious explanation of the lack of mention in the obit.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 16:00 last edited by
Can I say, I don't much care?
We are what we bring to the media.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 16:08 last edited by
I always assumed his wife was real. If she's not, it certainly puts a sadder note on his posts.
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wrote on 5 Aug 2022, 16:10 last edited by
I'm not sure that us trying to dissect his life posthumously is really any better than Dewey dancing on his grave.
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I'm not sure that us trying to dissect his life posthumously is really any better than Dewey dancing on his grave.