The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago
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Who in the hell uses all those notifications?
All mine are off, except for calls and text messages. And my phone's constantly on do not disturb, so if I'm nearby when it rings, great, but if not I just see what I missed when I can get to it.
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
wrote on 11 Feb 2021, 19:50 last edited by@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Who in the hell uses all those notifications?
All mine are off, except for calls and text messages. And my phone's constantly on do not disturb, so if I'm nearby when it rings, great, but if not I just see what I missed when I can get to it.
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
OK boomer
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@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Who in the hell uses all those notifications?
All mine are off, except for calls and text messages. And my phone's constantly on do not disturb, so if I'm nearby when it rings, great, but if not I just see what I missed when I can get to it.
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
OK boomer
wrote on 11 Feb 2021, 20:01 last edited by@copper said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
Wow, I just had a time side-slip or something. I was one of the last people to go to the cellphone. I didn't like the idea of dragging the phone around with me. I wanted to be over here and my TELEphone to be over there and to stay over there.
And now here's Aqua, someone way younger than I, bellyaching about phone tyranny.
Weird.
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@copper said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
Wow, I just had a time side-slip or something. I was one of the last people to go to the cellphone. I didn't like the idea of dragging the phone around with me. I wanted to be over here and my TELEphone to be over there and to stay over there.
And now here's Aqua, someone way younger than I, bellyaching about phone tyranny.
Weird.
wrote on 11 Feb 2021, 20:11 last edited by@catseye3 said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@copper said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
Wow, I just had a time side-slip or something. I was one of the last people to go to the cellphone. I didn't like the idea of dragging the phone around with me. I wanted to be over here and my TELEphone to be over there and to stay over there.
And now here's Aqua, someone way younger than I, bellyaching about phone tyranny.
Weird.
- A fun book is Deep Work by Cal Newport. I do that kind of work all the time, and the book is a kind of how-to with options.
- The process by which we come up with creative ideas is to (1) fill our heads with books, movies, stories, whatever it is we're interested in, and then (2) allow our brains to spend a lot of time in what's called the "Default Mode Network": doing mundane tasks like vacuuming or making coffee. The DMN is precisely why people say they get their best ideas in the shower, and why Stephen King thought up so many of his while taking his afternoon stroll.
Phones absolutely destroy all of these things. Their interruptions prevent you from doing any kind of deep work, they distract you from digging deep into a movie or book, and they don't allow you quiet time to do rote tasks. Sure, listening to a podcast while driving helps pass the time, and you're learning something, but you sure as hell aren't coming up with any ideas.
I'd rather have my mind back.
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Who in the hell uses all those notifications?
All mine are off, except for calls and text messages. And my phone's constantly on do not disturb, so if I'm nearby when it rings, great, but if not I just see what I missed when I can get to it.
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 13:37 last edited by@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
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@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:03 last edited by@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time. -
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:09 last edited by@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.You're older, and you don't live alone.
My kiddo is very self-sufficient, but since she lives alone and we're in a pandemic, I'm pretty quick to check if she needs something. Plus, she sends funny stuff on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for that. LOL
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@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.You're older, and you don't live alone.
My kiddo is very self-sufficient, but since she lives alone and we're in a pandemic, I'm pretty quick to check if she needs something. Plus, she sends funny stuff on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for that. LOL
wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:11 last edited by@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.You're older, and you don't live alone.
My kiddo is very self-sufficient, but since she lives alone and we're in a pandemic, I'm pretty quick to check if she needs something. Plus, she sends funny stuff on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for that. LOL
Actually my parents are more responsive now.
By a noticeable margin.That's just them though; not knocking what you and your daughter do, I think it's good. Respond away!
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@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.You're older, and you don't live alone.
My kiddo is very self-sufficient, but since she lives alone and we're in a pandemic, I'm pretty quick to check if she needs something. Plus, she sends funny stuff on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for that. LOL
Actually my parents are more responsive now.
By a noticeable margin.That's just them though; not knocking what you and your daughter do, I think it's good. Respond away!
wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:14 last edited by@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@aqua-letifer said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Why let your phone dictate your attention?
When it's your kiddo on the other end.
We use Google Hangouts, and when that tone comes through, I pick up my phone to see.
My parents generally get back to me 4-7 days after I call, text or email them. And even then it's about 40% of the time.You're older, and you don't live alone.
My kiddo is very self-sufficient, but since she lives alone and we're in a pandemic, I'm pretty quick to check if she needs something. Plus, she sends funny stuff on a regular basis. I'm a sucker for that. LOL
Actually my parents are more responsive now.
By a noticeable margin.That's just them though; not knocking what you and your daughter do, I think it's good. Respond away!
She sends cat pictures from her online friends. I'm such a sucker for those cuties. There's one in particular that I just LOVE. His name is Howl. The stories about him are epic. He's a terror and a sweetheart.
Isn't that a great name? Howl.
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wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:15 last edited by
@brenda Ask her if he has a moving castle!
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wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 16:16 last edited by
My mom once called the cops to do a wellness check on me because I hadn't gotten back to her in a few days. The cops entered through a window and I met them on the stairs. I had been sleeping. At the time she knew I was a dysfunctional alcoholic, as her father was at some points of his life. She was concerned.
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My mom once called the cops to do a wellness check on me because I hadn't gotten back to her in a few days. The cops entered through a window and I met them on the stairs. I had been sleeping. At the time she knew I was a dysfunctional alcoholic, as her father was at some points of his life. She was concerned.
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wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 19:59 last edited by
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Moms get worried sometimes. It's a mixed blessing. LOL
My mom's weirdness is understandable. She was raised in a family where she was the older sister where the younger brother accidentally killed the younger sister. He thought it would be cool to throw a match into a pail of gasoline. His sister was rounding the corner of the house at exactly that time. She burned to death. He killed himself 20 years later. His other brother did too, a bit later. It was a bad scene.
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@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Moms get worried sometimes. It's a mixed blessing. LOL
My mom's weirdness is understandable. She was raised in a family where she was the older sister where the younger brother accidentally killed the younger sister. He thought it would be cool to throw a match into a pail of gasoline. His sister was rounding the corner of the house at exactly that time. She burned to death. He killed himself 20 years later. His other brother did too, a bit later. It was a bad scene.
wrote on 12 Feb 2021, 20:23 last edited by@horace said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Moms get worried sometimes. It's a mixed blessing. LOL
My mom's weirdness is understandable. She was raised in a family where she was the older sister where the younger brother accidentally killed the younger sister. He thought it would be cool to throw a match into a pail of gasoline. His sister was rounding the corner of the house at exactly that time. She burned to death. He killed himself 20 years later. His other brother did too, a bit later. It was a bad scene.
God Horace, what a horrific story.
Everything is fine, just another day more or less, and then something happens that completely obliterates everything, even manifesting in suicides decades later. Jesus. One moment of one day. Just one stupid act by a kid that does something other boys of that age might do. I used to pour gasoline on the rear of my skateboard and ride down a steep hill with a flame shooting out the back. I was stupid too, but like all boys, I survived after doing a whole lot of stupid things while growing up, and even into adulthood. I'm so sorry for your family. Really. What a god-awful story of family history. -
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Moms get worried sometimes. It's a mixed blessing. LOL
My mom's weirdness is understandable. She was raised in a family where she was the older sister where the younger brother accidentally killed the younger sister. He thought it would be cool to throw a match into a pail of gasoline. His sister was rounding the corner of the house at exactly that time. She burned to death. He killed himself 20 years later. His other brother did too, a bit later. It was a bad scene.
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@horace said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
@brenda said in The Daily Mirror, 98 years ago:
Moms get worried sometimes. It's a mixed blessing. LOL
My mom's weirdness is understandable. She was raised in a family where she was the older sister where the younger brother accidentally killed the younger sister. He thought it would be cool to throw a match into a pail of gasoline. His sister was rounding the corner of the house at exactly that time. She burned to death. He killed himself 20 years later. His other brother did too, a bit later. It was a bad scene.
God Horace, what a horrific story.
Everything is fine, just another day more or less, and then something happens that completely obliterates everything, even manifesting in suicides decades later. Jesus. One moment of one day. Just one stupid act by a kid that does something other boys of that age might do. I used to pour gasoline on the rear of my skateboard and ride down a steep hill with a flame shooting out the back. I was stupid too, but like all boys, I survived after doing a whole lot of stupid things while growing up, and even into adulthood. I'm so sorry for your family. Really. What a god-awful story of family history.