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How couples meet. 1940-2020
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- Cotton Mather, Salem Massachusetts, 1692
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@jon-nyc Interesting graph. I would not have expect the "college" meeting to decrease so much after the last 15 years or so.
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@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
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@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
@taiwan_girl said in Mildly interesting:
@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
Read The Vanishing Neighbor or Bowling Alone. (What is it with me and book reccos today?)
Anyway, they explain it pretty well.
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@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
@taiwan_girl said in Mildly interesting:
@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
Because in the 80’s and 90’s we knew better than to become couples with the people we met at bars.
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@taiwan_girl said in Mildly interesting:
@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
Because in the 80’s and 90’s we knew better than to become couples with the people we met at bars.
@LuFins-Dad said in Mildly interesting:
@taiwan_girl said in Mildly interesting:
@jon-nyc Good point, but I guess I would have expected the "meeting in bar/restaurant" to have decreased also. Not sure why that is so much more popular now than in 1980 or 1990.
Because in the 80’s and 90’s we knew better than to become couples with the people we met at bars.
LOL So, maybe the graph is just looking at people STILL married.
maybe the "meeting in bar/restaurant" line will decrease after a few more years? LOL
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How did you meet your significant others?
Limiting to those I was with 1yr or more, and using their categories:
1 in college
1 in a bar (old fiancé in Chicago)
3 at work or a work event (conference)
1 through a friend (Rachel)I did meet some girls online but nothing long term came from it. That was just taking off when I met a Rachel.
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Based on your 1 year standard
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Work - Karla worked for a finance company we used, and she andI talked on the phone often to go over credit apps. I started flirting over the phone...
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College
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High school
Now if we relaxed the requirements from 1 year to 24 hours, it would look more like
Work
Bar
Bar
Work
Work
Work (at bar)
Bar
Bar
Work
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@jon-nyc said in Mildly interesting:
Why do you say that? These are all people with an SO?
Most people (or at least over half) who marry, tend to marry someone who lives fairly close to them. Fairly close being within twenty or thirty miles in rural areas or maybe just four or five miles in urban areas. Couple this online surge with the fact that less people are getting married today, and I'd say that social skills are waning.
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I do think that social skills may be waning, but I do not see too much into the graph.
If someone meets on line, that is just the initial meeting. They may date for 3 years before marrying for example.
Seeing someone first in work/church/restaurant etc., is really not so different from seeing someone on line.
- see someone (on line / across the room / told of them by a friend, etc.)
- approach them and say something (virtual or real)
- invite them on a date (after that, it is the same no matter how you initially met them)
- etc.
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@jon-nyc said in Mildly interesting:
Why do you say that? These are all people with an SO?
Most people (or at least over half) who marry, tend to marry someone who lives fairly close to them. Fairly close being within twenty or thirty miles in rural areas or maybe just four or five miles in urban areas. Couple this online surge with the fact that less people are getting married today, and I'd say that social skills are waning.
@Jolly said in Mildly interesting:
social skills are waning.
That's beyond obvious. And it's not just a problem with young people.
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