My optometrist doesn’t like Trump
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wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 17:11 last edited by
The common feature is their apparent total obliviousness that the person they are speaking to might feel radically different. I suspect they both live in a bubble.
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
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wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 17:17 last edited by
A guy goes to the barber, and has his 5 year old daughter with him. She's shy, so she sticks right to her daddy. So when it was his turn to get in the chair, his daughter stood right beside the chair, one hand touching daddy, the other hand holding a snack cake.
The barber was trying to work around her, but she was in his way. Finally the barber said "Honey, you're going to get hair on your Twinkie." The little girl says "Yeah, I know. I'm gonna get boobs too.."
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@Loki said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
You liked like a bird of the feather.
You mean, I look like a Trump supporter? I don't think anybody around these parts looks like a Trump supporter, since they all but do not exist and there is no established norm of what they look like.
wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 17:17 last edited by@Horace said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
@Loki said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
You liked like a bird of the feather.
You mean, I look like a Trump supporter? I don't think anybody around these parts looks like a Trump supporter, since they all but do not exist and there is no established norm of what they look like.
White. That’s a good start.
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The common feature is their apparent total obliviousness that the person they are speaking to might feel radically different. I suspect they both live in a bubble.
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 17:29 last edited by@Doctor-Phibes said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
There's another, similar situation where this happens. A stranger to me, (like a garage mechanic or some such) calls me Honey. I say, don't call me Honey, and he gives this stupid grin and says, Oh, I call all pretty ladies Honey.
Thereby doubling the offense, did he but know it. It's like, your/my taking offense at something they say doesn't count because of some belief in their own head. 'Immigrants like you', or 'Honey'. It can't be offensive because of whatever THEY think.
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wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 17:34 last edited by
I can tolerate most anything as long as they don't start smacking their fingers against their mouth while saying "woo woo woo woo" and jumping around like they're walking over lit charcoal barefoot.....
I'll go Tonto on your ass over that........
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@Doctor-Phibes said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
There's another, similar situation where this happens. A stranger to me, (like a garage mechanic or some such) calls me Honey. I say, don't call me Honey, and he gives this stupid grin and says, Oh, I call all pretty ladies Honey.
Thereby doubling the offense, did he but know it. It's like, your/my taking offense at something they say doesn't count because of some belief in their own head. 'Immigrants like you', or 'Honey'. It can't be offensive because of whatever THEY think.
wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 19:28 last edited by@Catseye3 said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
@Doctor-Phibes said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
There's another, similar situation where this happens. A stranger to me, (like a garage mechanic or some such) calls me Honey. I say, don't call me Honey, and he gives this stupid grin and says, Oh, I call all pretty ladies Honey.
Thereby doubling the offense, did he but know it. It's like, your/my taking offense at something they say doesn't count because of some belief in their own head. 'Immigrants like you', or 'Honey'. It can't be offensive because of whatever THEY think.
Cats, I guess you should have killed him.
The woman at the post office calls everyone something endearing. One time, she called me Sweetie. I walked out with some guy, and I told him as if boasting, "she called me Sweetie!" He said, "yeah? She called me Dear!" If I were to have scolded her, I know it would have really hurt her feelings.
I think most people are good, and overall kind. To jump on them for some little thing as if it's a Mountain, I don't get it.
It's like opening a door for a female, and getting yelled at, "I'll open my own door!" Turn a kind act or affectionate word into an argument. What huge point is being made? Other than the guy never opening a door for a female again, and then the complaint, "what a rude guy, no manners, must be a jerk that has no etiquette."The door thing I remember when in college. It was a certain type of female, the way she dressed, hair style (or lack of), where you learned never to hold the door open, because "she" was on some feminazi crusade based upon turning manners into hate.
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@Catseye3 said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
@Doctor-Phibes said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
There's another, similar situation where this happens. A stranger to me, (like a garage mechanic or some such) calls me Honey. I say, don't call me Honey, and he gives this stupid grin and says, Oh, I call all pretty ladies Honey.
Thereby doubling the offense, did he but know it. It's like, your/my taking offense at something they say doesn't count because of some belief in their own head. 'Immigrants like you', or 'Honey'. It can't be offensive because of whatever THEY think.
Cats, I guess you should have killed him.
The woman at the post office calls everyone something endearing. One time, she called me Sweetie. I walked out with some guy, and I told him as if boasting, "she called me Sweetie!" He said, "yeah? She called me Dear!" If I were to have scolded her, I know it would have really hurt her feelings.
I think most people are good, and overall kind. To jump on them for some little thing as if it's a Mountain, I don't get it.
It's like opening a door for a female, and getting yelled at, "I'll open my own door!" Turn a kind act or affectionate word into an argument. What huge point is being made? Other than the guy never opening a door for a female again, and then the complaint, "what a rude guy, no manners, must be a jerk that has no etiquette."The door thing I remember when in college. It was a certain type of female, the way she dressed, hair style (or lack of), where you learned never to hold the door open, because "she" was on some feminazi crusade based upon turning manners into hate.
wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 19:35 last edited by Mik 7 Nov 2020, 19:35@Rainman said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
@Catseye3 said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
@Doctor-Phibes said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
Obviously, my barber didn't disapprove of immigrants 'like me', which is why he totally ignored the possibility that I might take offence.
There's another, similar situation where this happens. A stranger to me, (like a garage mechanic or some such) calls me Honey. I say, don't call me Honey, and he gives this stupid grin and says, Oh, I call all pretty ladies Honey.
Thereby doubling the offense, did he but know it. It's like, your/my taking offense at something they say doesn't count because of some belief in their own head. 'Immigrants like you', or 'Honey'. It can't be offensive because of whatever THEY think.
Cats, I guess you should have killed him.
The woman at the post office calls everyone something endearing. One time, she called me Sweetie. I walked out with some guy, and I told him as if boasting, "she called me Sweetie!" He said, "yeah? She called me Dear!" If I were to have scolded her, I know it would have really hurt her feelings.
I think most people are good, and overall kind. To jump on them for some little thing as if it's a Mountain, I don't get it.
It's like opening a door for a female, and getting yelled at, "I'll open my own door!" Turn a kind act or affectionate word into an argument. What huge point is being made? Other than the guy never opening a door for a female again, and then the complaint, "what a rude guy, no manners, must be a jerk that has no etiquette."The door thing I remember when in college. It was a certain type of female, the way she dressed, hair style (or lack of), where you learned never to hold the door open, because "she" was on some feminazi crusade based upon turning manners into hate.
Yep. You have to give people credit for good intent. Otherwise you're going to walk around perpetually offended when no offense was offered.
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wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 19:43 last edited by
@Rainman: I understand your position. I've felt sorry for men in this regard for a long time -- how do you know what to do with different women? It must seem like you can't do anything right. Damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Maybe ask, early on. Then she'll clarify and then you'll know.
As far as the Honey thing, there's more to it than friendliness or neighborliness. It has to do with respect. Being called Honey by a stranger has a smell of casual contempt: "No threat here, no need to show respect." Hard to explain. A stranger can call me by my name or he can just skip it and not call me anything.
Not crazy about the post office lady with her Sweeties and Dears, either -- for much the same reason. It's like they're establishing a role or something.
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wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 20:21 last edited by
In our school district, it became policy that an employee could not give a compliment unless first asking the person if it would be OK to give a compliment.
Absolutely illogical. Nuts. The change was forced by an assistant superintendent, the same one that filed a grievance against me.
She weighs like 1,000 lbs., no makeup ever, frumpy in dress, but knows how to manipulate the system to institute radical leftwing nonsense. And then enforces with a big smile. Very few people in this world that I hold in complete contempt. She's one. -
In our school district, it became policy that an employee could not give a compliment unless first asking the person if it would be OK to give a compliment.
Absolutely illogical. Nuts. The change was forced by an assistant superintendent, the same one that filed a grievance against me.
She weighs like 1,000 lbs., no makeup ever, frumpy in dress, but knows how to manipulate the system to institute radical leftwing nonsense. And then enforces with a big smile. Very few people in this world that I hold in complete contempt. She's one.wrote on 11 Jul 2020, 20:42 last edited by@Rainman said in My optometrist doesn’t like Trump:
In our school district, it became policy that an employee could not give a compliment unless first asking the person if it would be OK to give a compliment.
Absolutely illogical. Nuts. The change was forced by an assistant superintendent, the same one that filed a grievance against me.
She weighs like 1,000 lbs., no makeup ever, frumpy in dress, but knows how to manipulate the system to institute radical leftwing nonsense. And then enforces with a big smile. Very few people in this world that I hold in complete contempt. She's one.That explains a lot, Rainman.