Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award
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No idea if this is really true, but, there you go.
I divorced my dying husband — he wallowed in self-pity and killed my vibe
A woman has opened up about why she divorced her dying husband, saying his five-year cancer battle took a toll on their marriage as he wallowed in self-pity.
Yana Fry, 40, wed her late husband when she was 22 years old and dreamed of starting a family with him.
But the bride’s dreams were soon dashed when her husband, then 37, was diagnosed with testicular cancer.
“We couldn’t really think about our future,” Fry told Caters.
“How can you plan for your future as a newly-married couple when you’re struggling with something like cancer?”
Fry, who was living in New York City with her husband, said no one was worried about how she was doing during the difficult time.
“We saw different kinds of doctors. Not a single person ever offered me help,” she bemoaned.
“They never asked, ‘Do you need a support system? Are you part of a counseling group?'”
“In my mind at the time, suicide became an option, even though I had never considered that before. I was in such a bad state.”
“It was very clear to me that if I didn’t save myself, I was probably going to die,” she dramatically added.
Fry subsequently filed for divorce from her husband, leaving him stunned.
“His main focus was more and more so about him,” she stated.
And she's pissed off that, after he died, no one let her know.
See you next Tuesday, Yana.
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Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka
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Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
Remind me to never marry you.
“I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.” ~Winston S. Churchill
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@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
Remind me to never marry you.
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@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
Remind me to never marry you.
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@Mik said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Remind me to never marry you.
Dang, another hope dashed.
@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
@Mik said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Remind me to never marry you.
Dang, another hope dashed.
Yeah, I get that a lot.
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Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Either way, she lost her happy state.
Ditto Mik's response.
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@George-K Good God.
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Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
@Catseye3 said in Contender for the "Most horrible person on the planet" award:
Eh. This is one of those deals where you'd have to walk in the person's moccasins. She faced two scenarios: Either he got well or he died. If he got well, she probably wouldn't have been able to cross back over to where she'd been in the marriage before he got sick, so resumption of a happy marriage was not in the cards. Or she could endure an unhappy state until he died. Either way, she lost her happy state. It sounds like, fairly or not, he killed her love with his behavior. The decision to divorce him was cold, but why extend her misery? What would that serve for either of them?
I tend to agree.
We know little detail, but I can imagine circumstances where I could understand why she did what she did. Maybe she is awful, but then again maybe she merely has a healthy dose of self defense.
