Skip to content
  • Categories
  • Recent
  • Tags
  • Popular
  • Users
  • Groups
Skins
  • Light
  • Cerulean
  • Cosmo
  • Flatly
  • Journal
  • Litera
  • Lumen
  • Lux
  • Materia
  • Minty
  • Morph
  • Pulse
  • Sandstone
  • Simplex
  • Sketchy
  • Spacelab
  • United
  • Yeti
  • Zephyr
  • Dark
  • Cyborg
  • Darkly
  • Quartz
  • Slate
  • Solar
  • Superhero
  • Vapor

  • Default (No Skin)
  • No Skin
Collapse

The New Coffee Room

  1. TNCR
  2. General Discussion
  3. Read 'em and Weep

Read 'em and Weep

Scheduled Pinned Locked Moved General Discussion
87 Posts 10 Posters 1.3k Views
  • Oldest to Newest
  • Newest to Oldest
  • Most Votes
Reply
  • Reply as topic
Log in to reply
This topic has been deleted. Only users with topic management privileges can see it.
  • JollyJ Jolly

    Read the article, folks.

    It's written from a Biblical perspective, but there is a lot of common sense in there. A large part of why so
    much of society is in turmoil, is because people have no sense of place. Not in gender, not in desired behavior, not in relationships, not in families and not in responsibilities.

    As was written in Judges... In those days there was no king in Israel, but every man did that which was right in his own eyes.

    That's a recipe for disaster.

    RenaudaR Offline
    RenaudaR Offline
    Renauda
    wrote on last edited by Renauda
    #31

    @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

    Read the article, folks.

    I read it. I found it patronizing; it was difficult to get past the finger wagging.

    It's written from a Biblical perspective, but there is a lot of common sense in there.

    Why the “but”? Does the Biblical perspective normally lack common sense?

    A large part of why so much of society is in turmoil, is because people have no sense of place.

    Perhaps going back to an agrarian society with a feudal monarchical system of governance would cure that. People certainly knew their place then. After all, when the Bible was written it was a time when agriculture was a society’s economic driver and kings ruled the land and people. No feudalism mind you, that came later and was still quite consustent with Biblical teachings.

    I take it then you do not subscribe to the libertarian views of Thomas Paine or, say, Rand Paul.

    Elbows up!

    JollyJ 1 Reply Last reply
    • RenaudaR Renauda

      @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

      Read the article, folks.

      I read it. I found it patronizing; it was difficult to get past the finger wagging.

      It's written from a Biblical perspective, but there is a lot of common sense in there.

      Why the “but”? Does the Biblical perspective normally lack common sense?

      A large part of why so much of society is in turmoil, is because people have no sense of place.

      Perhaps going back to an agrarian society with a feudal monarchical system of governance would cure that. People certainly knew their place then. After all, when the Bible was written it was a time when agriculture was a society’s economic driver and kings ruled the land and people. No feudalism mind you, that came later and was still quite consustent with Biblical teachings.

      I take it then you do not subscribe to the libertarian views of Thomas Paine or, say, Rand Paul.

      JollyJ Offline
      JollyJ Offline
      Jolly
      wrote on last edited by
      #32

      @Renauda said in Read 'em and Weep:

      @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

      Read the article, folks.

      I read it. I found it patronizing; it was difficult to get past the finger wagging.

      It's written from a Biblical perspective, but there is a lot of common sense in there.

      Why the “but”? Does the Biblical perspective normally lack common sense?

      A large part of why so much of society is in turmoil, is because people have no sense of place.

      Perhaps going back to an agrarian society with a feudal monarchical system of governance would cure that. People certainly knew their place then. After all, when the Bible was written it was a time when agriculture was a society’s economic driver and kings ruled the land and people. No feudalism mind you, that came later and was still quite consustent with Biblical teachings.

      I take it then you do not subscribe to the libertarian views of Thomas Paine or, say, Rand Paul.

      Human nature is the same in ancient Egypt, Israel in Jesus' day and in modern day America. Those words in red or those letters to the early church are just as valid as they were thousands of years ago.

      “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

      Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

      RenaudaR 1 Reply Last reply
      • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

        @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

        The writer of the article is a marriage counselor.

        He's not mine.

        And whether you'd like for them to fuck off or not, I think it does most folks good to hear a little Bible. One should never take what somebody else quotes as gospel, but should take those quotes and look at them for their own education and edification.

        Here's my rule: I'll gladly take advice, either supportive or critical, from people who (1) know enough about me to accurately assess where I'm at, and (2) want me specifically—not humanity generally, but me specifically—to succeed.

        He doesn't know me. So he's 0 for 2.

        As Americans, we tend to have a pretty intense dislike for authority, but authority is not always bad. That's why I quoted Judges. Without some type of authority, man dissolves into anarchy, which is unstable and without justice.

        I've no problem with that as a principle. But in terms of my own life, this guy's not an authority. So, sorry, when it comes to his sermonizing, I'll make up my own mind about what I think I should consider or ignore. And he'll take no part in my attempt to understand God's intentions.

        JollyJ Offline
        JollyJ Offline
        Jolly
        wrote on last edited by
        #33

        @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

        @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

        The writer of the article is a marriage counselor.

        He's not mine.

        And whether you'd like for them to fuck off or not, I think it does most folks good to hear a little Bible. One should never take what somebody else quotes as gospel, but should take those quotes and look at them for their own education and edification.

        Here's my rule: I'll gladly take advice, either supportive or critical, from people who (1) know enough about me to accurately assess where I'm at, and (2) want me specifically—not humanity generally, but me specifically—to succeed.

        He doesn't know me. So he's 0 for 2.

        As Americans, we tend to have a pretty intense dislike for authority, but authority is not always bad. That's why I quoted Judges. Without some type of authority, man dissolves into anarchy, which is unstable and without justice.

        I've no problem with that as a principle. But in terms of my own life, this guy's not an authority. So, sorry, when it comes to his sermonizing, I'll make up my own mind about what I think I should consider or ignore. And he'll take no part in my attempt to understand God's intentions.

        The guy may not be your authority, but the Bible is, just as Jesus is the ultimate authority.

        Now, you can certainly nibble around the edges of the author's argument. In fact, I encourage you to. Take his cited Scripture and read it in context. Then see if you can find where he's wrong or where Scripture is not clear or contradicts itself.

        “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

        Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

        1 Reply Last reply
        • JollyJ Jolly

          @Renauda said in Read 'em and Weep:

          @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

          Read the article, folks.

          I read it. I found it patronizing; it was difficult to get past the finger wagging.

          It's written from a Biblical perspective, but there is a lot of common sense in there.

          Why the “but”? Does the Biblical perspective normally lack common sense?

          A large part of why so much of society is in turmoil, is because people have no sense of place.

          Perhaps going back to an agrarian society with a feudal monarchical system of governance would cure that. People certainly knew their place then. After all, when the Bible was written it was a time when agriculture was a society’s economic driver and kings ruled the land and people. No feudalism mind you, that came later and was still quite consustent with Biblical teachings.

          I take it then you do not subscribe to the libertarian views of Thomas Paine or, say, Rand Paul.

          Human nature is the same in ancient Egypt, Israel in Jesus' day and in modern day America. Those words in red or those letters to the early church are just as valid as they were thousands of years ago.

          RenaudaR Offline
          RenaudaR Offline
          Renauda
          wrote on last edited by Renauda
          #34

          @Jolly

          Human nature may very well be intrinsically the same as it was in antiquity however many of the cultures and societies are quite different today than in ancient Egypt or when Jesus lived. Not saying there are no valuable lessons to be learned from studying the wisdom of the ancients, but I am saying that not all the wisdom of the past can or should be taken as immutable truth or entirely relevant in the modern world.

          Elbows up!

          Catseye3C 1 Reply Last reply
          • RenaudaR Renauda

            @Jolly

            Human nature may very well be intrinsically the same as it was in antiquity however many of the cultures and societies are quite different today than in ancient Egypt or when Jesus lived. Not saying there are no valuable lessons to be learned from studying the wisdom of the ancients, but I am saying that not all the wisdom of the past can or should be taken as immutable truth or entirely relevant in the modern world.

            Catseye3C Offline
            Catseye3C Offline
            Catseye3
            wrote on last edited by Catseye3
            #35

            @Renauda But what is immutable? Consider:

            "I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures."
            -- Lao Tzu, 500-? BC

            “Those who educate children well are more to be honored than they who produce them; for these only gave them life, those the art of living well.”
            ― Aristotle. 384-322 BC

            “The things that we love tell us what we are.”
            ― St. Thomas Aquinas, 1225-1274

            "It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well." -- René Descartes, 1596-1650

            “It is not the length of life, but the depth.” -- Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882

            "If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest one first." -- Mark Twain, 1850-1910

            (And if that ain't wisdom, I don't know what is!)

            Any one of these men could have said these things to you whilst sitting next to you on the bus. True in our time, and understood in theirs!

            I've always believed that human nature is unchanged throughout our history. You're right -- practically everything else under the hand of man has changed (in one direction or another) but wants, desires, ambitions, grief, craftiness, sacrificial love -- you name it, are unchanged from their time to ours.

            Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

            RenaudaR 1 Reply Last reply
            • AxtremusA Away
              AxtremusA Away
              Axtremus
              wrote on last edited by
              #36

              What about women?
              Has the nature of women changed?
              Do women not want to be able to decide what they want to do themselves now?
              Did women not want to be able to decide what they want to do themselves back when the various books in the Christian Bible were written?

              Catseye3C 1 Reply Last reply
              • JollyJ Offline
                JollyJ Offline
                Jolly
                wrote on last edited by
                #37

                Basic nature has not changed. What turned a woman's head in ancient Greece will still do so today.

                “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

                1 Reply Last reply
                • AxtremusA Axtremus

                  What about women?
                  Has the nature of women changed?
                  Do women not want to be able to decide what they want to do themselves now?
                  Did women not want to be able to decide what they want to do themselves back when the various books in the Christian Bible were written?

                  Catseye3C Offline
                  Catseye3C Offline
                  Catseye3
                  wrote on last edited by Catseye3
                  #38

                  @Axtremus said in Read 'em and Weep:

                  What about women?
                  Has the nature of women changed?

                  I wonder if that isn't a harder question to answer. Men's nature has always been more overt, more out there. More plainly acknowledged universally. Women have had more reason to be more circumspect. It's always been more "a man's world".

                  I'm kind of spitballing here, I don't know how valid that is . . . women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk. They've had more cause to be political. The dynamics are different.

                  I don't know. Women have had to use more care, more guile -- not always in a bad way -- have had to be less direct than men to get what they want. Possibly different times, different eras, have guided women to behave differently from one age to another, and that has not been as evident, as easy to see.

                  Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

                  Aqua LetiferA 1 Reply Last reply
                  • Catseye3C Catseye3

                    @Renauda But what is immutable? Consider:

                    "I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures."
                    -- Lao Tzu, 500-? BC

                    “Those who educate children well are more to be honored than they who produce them; for these only gave them life, those the art of living well.”
                    ― Aristotle. 384-322 BC

                    “The things that we love tell us what we are.”
                    ― St. Thomas Aquinas, 1225-1274

                    "It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well." -- René Descartes, 1596-1650

                    “It is not the length of life, but the depth.” -- Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882

                    "If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest one first." -- Mark Twain, 1850-1910

                    (And if that ain't wisdom, I don't know what is!)

                    Any one of these men could have said these things to you whilst sitting next to you on the bus. True in our time, and understood in theirs!

                    I've always believed that human nature is unchanged throughout our history. You're right -- practically everything else under the hand of man has changed (in one direction or another) but wants, desires, ambitions, grief, craftiness, sacrificial love -- you name it, are unchanged from their time to ours.

                    RenaudaR Offline
                    RenaudaR Offline
                    Renauda
                    wrote on last edited by
                    #39

                    @Catseye3

                    I’ve always liked this one: “The hardest part about doin’ nuthin’ is knowin’ when to quit”. ~ a horse trainer whose name I have forgotten, who hosted a horse training clinic I attended in Vermilion 30 odd years ago .

                    Elbows up!

                    1 Reply Last reply
                    • Catseye3C Catseye3

                      @Axtremus said in Read 'em and Weep:

                      What about women?
                      Has the nature of women changed?

                      I wonder if that isn't a harder question to answer. Men's nature has always been more overt, more out there. More plainly acknowledged universally. Women have had more reason to be more circumspect. It's always been more "a man's world".

                      I'm kind of spitballing here, I don't know how valid that is . . . women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk. They've had more cause to be political. The dynamics are different.

                      I don't know. Women have had to use more care, more guile -- not always in a bad way -- have had to be less direct than men to get what they want. Possibly different times, different eras, have guided women to behave differently from one age to another, and that has not been as evident, as easy to see.

                      Aqua LetiferA Offline
                      Aqua LetiferA Offline
                      Aqua Letifer
                      wrote on last edited by
                      #40

                      @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                      women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk.

                      Up until very, very recently, only men fought in wars.

                      Please love yourself.

                      Doctor PhibesD 1 Reply Last reply
                      • JollyJ Offline
                        JollyJ Offline
                        Jolly
                        wrote on last edited by
                        #41

                        True, but women didn't fare too well if they were on the losing end.

                        During the Roman siege of Jerusalem, women ate their children...

                        “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                        Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

                        1 Reply Last reply
                        • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                          @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                          women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk.

                          Up until very, very recently, only men fought in wars.

                          Doctor PhibesD Online
                          Doctor PhibesD Online
                          Doctor Phibes
                          wrote on last edited by
                          #42

                          @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                          @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                          women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk.

                          Up until very, very recently, only men fought in wars.

                          Unless they were Boadicea...

                          I was only joking

                          Catseye3C 1 Reply Last reply
                          • JollyJ Jolly

                            @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                            @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

                            @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                            Ignoring the somewhat bizarre and extreme nature of what he's saying, what I did notice about both articles is that he seems to be blaming the problems on groups which he doesn't belong to. He's saying that the police are pretty much responsible for all the violence, and the wimminz are shouldering much of the blame for not knowing their place.

                            He uses the phrase 'getting the mote of your own eye first', and then proceeds to blame everybody else.

                            In the first article, you may find that bizarre, but it used to be a common way of life. It's still not uncommon down here.

                            And if finances permit, it actually makes for a pretty decent home life.

                            Of course, that's not the only thing mentioned in the piece...

                            Funnily enough, Mrs. Phibes has looked after our kids their whole lives, and hasn't worked other than part-time work a few years back. It was her choice, and we made a number of sacrifices on that basis.

                            The point isn't whether somebody does it or not. It's about some guy, or bunch of guys, telling people how to live.

                            The way he talks about women is pretty creepy, if you ask me. Feel free to disagree, but he's still pretty creepy.

                            I don't find it creepy, I find it Biblical. It lays out tasks and and responsibilities. The husband is tasked to be the provider. He should provide for his family's needs. In return, the woman also has her tasks and responsibilities. She is tasked to be the "help meet" of the family.

                            According to the author, neither should allow the lusts of the eyes, the lusts of the flesh nor the pride of life to undercut the role of either.

                            The author also talks about the introduction of debt into a marriage and who is responsible for it. He goes on to talk about frugality and eradication of debt within a home, which both husband and wife have part in accomplishing.

                            And he makes another statement, which many might disagree with, but can certainly wreck a home...If a woman wants or feels like she needs to work outside of her home, it should be a joint decision of husband and wife.

                            Lastly, the article is written for everybody, but I feel it has a certain emphasis for the black community and the dissolution of the black family.

                            AxtremusA Away
                            AxtremusA Away
                            Axtremus
                            wrote on last edited by
                            #43

                            @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

                            She is tasked to be the "help meet" of the family.

                            Speaking of “help meet”, here you have a bunch of male GOP candidates trotting their wives out to meet the voters in attempts to “soften” the candidates’ images after the candidates made strident anti-abortion statements and lost support, bigly, among women:

                            https://www.politico.com/news/2022/09/06/skeptical-female-voters-gop-senate-00054747

                            1 Reply Last reply
                            • JollyJ Offline
                              JollyJ Offline
                              Jolly
                              wrote on last edited by
                              #44

                              And what is wrong with that?

                              “Cry havoc and let slip the DOGE of war!”

                              Those who cheered as J-6 American prisoners were locked in solitary for 18 months without trial, now suddenly fight tooth and nail for foreign terrorists’ "due process". — Buck Sexton

                              AxtremusA 1 Reply Last reply
                              • JollyJ Jolly

                                And what is wrong with that?

                                AxtremusA Away
                                AxtremusA Away
                                Axtremus
                                wrote on last edited by
                                #45

                                @Jolly said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                And what is wrong with that?

                                The Craw article, as you have acknowledged, makes it a point to distinguish “needs” from “lusts.” Whether there’s anything “wrong” vis a vis the Craw article may depend on whether the wives were put in public spotlights to help meet a “need” or to help chasing after a “lust” (e.g., for power or prestige of elected offices).

                                JollyJ 1 Reply Last reply
                                • Doctor PhibesD Doctor Phibes

                                  @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                  @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                  women have always had more to lose, have always been more at risk.

                                  Up until very, very recently, only men fought in wars.

                                  Unless they were Boadicea...

                                  Catseye3C Offline
                                  Catseye3C Offline
                                  Catseye3
                                  wrote on last edited by
                                  #46

                                  @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                  Unless they were Boadicea

                                  Or Joan of Arc. Or Molly Pitcher.

                                  Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

                                  Aqua LetiferA 1 Reply Last reply
                                  • Catseye3C Catseye3

                                    @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                    Unless they were Boadicea

                                    Or Joan of Arc. Or Molly Pitcher.

                                    Aqua LetiferA Offline
                                    Aqua LetiferA Offline
                                    Aqua Letifer
                                    wrote on last edited by
                                    #47

                                    @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                    @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                    Unless they were Boadicea

                                    Or Joan of Arc. Or Molly Pitcher.

                                    You've named 3. 😄 (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                    What do you suppose the guy/girl ratio is on the Ukraine front?

                                    Please love yourself.

                                    Catseye3C 1 Reply Last reply
                                    • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                                      @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                      @Doctor-Phibes said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                      Unless they were Boadicea

                                      Or Joan of Arc. Or Molly Pitcher.

                                      You've named 3. 😄 (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                      What do you suppose the guy/girl ratio is on the Ukraine front?

                                      Catseye3C Offline
                                      Catseye3C Offline
                                      Catseye3
                                      wrote on last edited by
                                      #48

                                      @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                      (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                      They are?

                                      Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

                                      Aqua LetiferA 1 Reply Last reply
                                      • Catseye3C Catseye3

                                        @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                        (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                        They are?

                                        Aqua LetiferA Offline
                                        Aqua LetiferA Offline
                                        Aqua Letifer
                                        wrote on last edited by
                                        #49

                                        @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                        @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                        (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                        They are?

                                        You have a habit of citing things in your posts you haven't looked into yourself.

                                        Please love yourself.

                                        Catseye3C 1 Reply Last reply
                                        • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                                          @Catseye3 said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                          @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                          (Of which, all 3 are embellished legends, by the way.)

                                          They are?

                                          You have a habit of citing things in your posts you haven't looked into yourself.

                                          Catseye3C Offline
                                          Catseye3C Offline
                                          Catseye3
                                          wrote on last edited by
                                          #50

                                          @Aqua-Letifer said in Read 'em and Weep:

                                          You have a habit of citing things in your posts you haven't looked into yourself.

                                          And I'll probably continue to. Not everything is worth the effort of verifying. It's easier to take my lumps when I get caught out.

                                          Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

                                          Aqua LetiferA 1 Reply Last reply
                                          Reply
                                          • Reply as topic
                                          Log in to reply
                                          • Oldest to Newest
                                          • Newest to Oldest
                                          • Most Votes


                                          • Login

                                          • Don't have an account? Register

                                          • Login or register to search.
                                          • First post
                                            Last post
                                          0
                                          • Categories
                                          • Recent
                                          • Tags
                                          • Popular
                                          • Users
                                          • Groups