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  • brendaB Offline
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    Hubby's uncle in MD had a stroke yesterday, and he's in the hospital. It's not clear yet how bad the stroke was, but he's having trouble speaking, etc. He's always been such a vibrant person with a tremendous sense of humor. He's a retired inner city high school principal in Baltimore. If that isn't a testament to his inner strength, I don't know what is. They are still very active, and just last year moved to a new house to be closer to their daughter and grandchild.

    As if the stroke is not bad enough, his family can't come visit him now because of the pandemic. That part alone is a hard reality, and makes me want to cry for them. They're such wonderful people, and the last ones of that generation of hubby's family.

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      Ouch!! Sending positive thoughts to you, your husband and especially your husbands uncle. Sounds like a great guy!!!

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      • brendaB brenda

        Hubby's uncle in MD had a stroke yesterday, and he's in the hospital. It's not clear yet how bad the stroke was, but he's having trouble speaking, etc. He's always been such a vibrant person with a tremendous sense of humor. He's a retired inner city high school principal in Baltimore. If that isn't a testament to his inner strength, I don't know what is. They are still very active, and just last year moved to a new house to be closer to their daughter and grandchild.

        As if the stroke is not bad enough, his family can't come visit him now because of the pandemic. That part alone is a hard reality, and makes me want to cry for them. They're such wonderful people, and the last ones of that generation of hubby's family.

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        @brenda said in A hard reality:

        Hubby's uncle in MD had a stroke yesterday, and he's in the hospital. It's not clear yet how bad the stroke was, but he's having trouble speaking, etc. He's always been such a vibrant person with a tremendous sense of humor. He's a retired inner city high school principal in Baltimore. If that isn't a testament to his inner strength, I don't know what is. They are still very active, and just last year moved to a new house to be closer to their daughter and grandchild.

        As if the stroke is not bad enough, his family can't come visit him now because of the pandemic. That part alone is a hard reality, and makes me want to cry for them. They're such wonderful people, and the last ones of that generation of hubby's family.

        I'm so sorry, Brenda. 😞 Are there people in the area that can visit him?

        (It's something we're dealing with here, too, though not to that extent. My wife's family is moving next week and her dad is at extremely high risk. They're pissed we're not going up to help them, but they live in Long Island. It's just too much of a risk, for them and for us. And if anything happens to my folks down in FL, we won't be able to get down there. It's something I worry about.)

        Please love yourself.

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        • brendaB brenda

          Hubby's uncle in MD had a stroke yesterday, and he's in the hospital. It's not clear yet how bad the stroke was, but he's having trouble speaking, etc. He's always been such a vibrant person with a tremendous sense of humor. He's a retired inner city high school principal in Baltimore. If that isn't a testament to his inner strength, I don't know what is. They are still very active, and just last year moved to a new house to be closer to their daughter and grandchild.

          As if the stroke is not bad enough, his family can't come visit him now because of the pandemic. That part alone is a hard reality, and makes me want to cry for them. They're such wonderful people, and the last ones of that generation of hubby's family.

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          @brenda

          So sorry to hear

          Often people can have remarkable recoveries after strokes, not every symptom you see today is necessarily permanent, the nervous system has remarkable adaptive properties.

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            oh my. I cannot imagine the mental anguish, not be able to visit. So sorry to hear this.

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              Ugh. I'm sorry Brenda.

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              • Aqua LetiferA Aqua Letifer

                @brenda said in A hard reality:

                Hubby's uncle in MD had a stroke yesterday, and he's in the hospital. It's not clear yet how bad the stroke was, but he's having trouble speaking, etc. He's always been such a vibrant person with a tremendous sense of humor. He's a retired inner city high school principal in Baltimore. If that isn't a testament to his inner strength, I don't know what is. They are still very active, and just last year moved to a new house to be closer to their daughter and grandchild.

                As if the stroke is not bad enough, his family can't come visit him now because of the pandemic. That part alone is a hard reality, and makes me want to cry for them. They're such wonderful people, and the last ones of that generation of hubby's family.

                I'm so sorry, Brenda. 😞 Are there people in the area that can visit him?

                (It's something we're dealing with here, too, though not to that extent. My wife's family is moving next week and her dad is at extremely high risk. They're pissed we're not going up to help them, but they live in Long Island. It's just too much of a risk, for them and for us. And if anything happens to my folks down in FL, we won't be able to get down there. It's something I worry about.)

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                @Aqua-Letifer
                His wife and daughter live right in the area. It's because of the pandemic that visitors are not allowed at this time.

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                  Damn. 😞

                  Please love yourself.

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                  • bachophileB bachophile

                    @brenda

                    So sorry to hear

                    Often people can have remarkable recoveries after strokes, not every symptom you see today is necessarily permanent, the nervous system has remarkable adaptive properties.

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                    @bachophile
                    Yes, I am aware of that, and that's why his recent house move and activities are noted. I think those all work in his favor right now, as does his good nature and attitude. Thanks, bach.

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                      Sad. No words are adequate - but hope he recovers quickly. Such a tragedy that the family cannot be with him at this time.

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                        Not being able to visit is one of the most difficult problems with this flu

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                          So sorry to hear. Please extend my best regards.

                          To add to what bach said, even in adulthood the plasticity of the brain is amazing.

                          One of the nurses I worked with had a stroke about 3 months ago. Difficulty with speech, motor control, etc.

                          Took about 2 weeks, but she's 90% recovered, from what I hear.

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                          The saying, "Lite is just one damn thing after another," is a gross understatement. The damn things overlap.

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                            Very sorry, Brenda; terrible news. I wish him well.

                            Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace. – Mike Ditka

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                              So sorry to hear this, Brenda. Not being able to visit is very tough.

                              I was only joking

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                                Awful. I hope the staff are able to keep his spirits up so he can heal.

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                                  I am so sorry. Extra frightening these days but care for stroke patients just keeps getting better and better. Baseline stress for all of us is up so it takes very little to put any of us on edge.

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                                    Oh dear. I am so sorry.

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                                      Its a tough time, for sure. It would be even tougher if his family came down sick from visiting him.

                                      Wishing him a full and speedy recovery.

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                                        One of the saddest aspect to this pandemic is that no one is allowed to visit the medical centers. I'm sorry too Brenda.

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                                          Well, the plus side is that if you're able to walk, you'll get to go home when the hospital is so busy.. He's a strong one, and it pays to stay active. He's already walking well enough to go back to their single-storey house. His speaking is still an issue, but that's improving, too. He loves to talk as much as I do, so his odds are good that his speech will get better over time.

                                          Really, I think he'll do better at home than at the hospital now, as long as he's past the critical time of having another stroke episode. The first day or two are often when a second stroke can occur.

                                          I haven't heard what physical therapy he will need, or anything else like that. It's probably too soon to know. As Bach and George said, the brain is pretty amazing and can show improvement in remarkable ways. Until it's clear what he really needs for PT, that won't be decided yet. Fingers crossed for him, and so relieved to have him back with family.

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